(NSFW) How ofen do you have sex?

More than my husband, lol!
If you really want to know, you will need a higher security clearance.

It goes in cycles.

During the hot and heavy early part of our marriage it was darned near daily (sometimes twice ;) ). However, after several years it became a couple of times a week. Now between kids, jobs, and extra curricular activities, by the time the kids are in bed and we have some alone time we are both pretty much unconscious. I’d say an average of about once a week these days.

Ooh, that’s a doozy! Only when there’s a Y in the day. I mean, any more than that would be just plain greedy :¬)

@ragingloli (RE: More than my husband)

How can you be so sure? ;)

Several times a month! :-/
I’m not married but have some very close friends ;-) if I was to give an average, I’d say about five times a month…. Suits me.
Depends how drunk they are Lol….....

:( is my answer, and I’m sticking to it.

@YoBob
Because I killed him :P

Enough to get pregnant during R&R. :-)

We shoot for daily, manage every other day at least.

Does by yourself count?

Whenever we get to see each other (so, it varies).

When I started the business of answer questions online, it was maybe four times a year. As @TheOnlyNeffie said :(

When my wife finally figured out I was sick, and that that was a part of what was wrong with me, she kind of went all out, and that was maybe 2 times per week. As we have settled things between us, that has declined to once a week, and now once every two weeks. She says she believes her natural inclination would be around once a month. She believes that women, in general, want it less. I have not told her what I’ve heard here about that.

I think I’m ok with it now. The problem for me, before, was that I saw sex as being the thing you did only if you loved someone, and if you didn’t do it, that meant you didn’t love them. Now I understand and believe she loves me; it’s just that sex is not something she wants very often. When she does, she wants different things from it than I do. Like she doesn’t even care if she has an orgasm.

But it’s ok. Like @ChazMaz, I can take care of myself in between times and it’s ok. Do I wish I were doing it with a live person? Of course. But now I know she loves me and that seems to make a huge difference.

This is a very intense issue, and I think sex and frequency of sex has a lot of meaning to people, and usually, I think, we don’t talk about it. Sexual communication, or communication about sex are extremely important in relationships, but I know it is something that is very difficult for me to do, and I suspect other people also have such difficulties.

I think we have a tendency to compare ourselves, and we see all these people who say they do it twice a day or once a day, and we think we only do it once a month, or whatever, and it’s like a competition (in our minds).

What is normal? Everyone says there is no normal, but my guess is that we all still compare ourselves. Some might be jealous of those who fuck every day, and others might be jealous of those who fuck once a month. But I doubt if people often share their feelings about the amount and their wishes and what it all means to them. At least, I’ve not been privy to any such discussions, except with my therapist.

@wundayatta I think a lot of couples do talk about this stuff, though and many people I know are very vocal about exactly what they want and what they think it means but I don’t think people I know are very representative of people in general.

When we see each other (long distance relationship) which is usually once or twice a week.

@Simone_De_Beauvoir Maybe you and your friends should be giving lessons in this art ;-) I’m sure there are a number of us who could use the help. Come to think of it… Omega, Kripalu, Esalen—and probably others all have these kinds of workshops.

@wundayatta I don’t think we should be giving lessons – I wish people would be raised to be more comfortable with bodies, with the topic of sex, so forth.

@Simone_De_Beauvoir But if parents and teachers don’t raise us to be comfortable with our bodies, should be be denied the opportunity to learn it later on in life? Should we have to figure it out on our own?

See—I think that’s how most people think it should be—something to figure out on your own or with a lover, but no sharing of information outside of that particular couple. If people shared that information, questions like this wouldn’t be so challenging or titillating. We might understand the truly wide variety of behavior (if it is truly wide), and people would probably get less freaked out about it. Maybe.

Sadly… not often :( sniffle

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@wundayatta Well, of course, you have every right to learn and to talk about it – I just think neither I nor my friends are exactly qualified to educate on this topic…although, I don’t think there should be qualifications…well, if you ever need to talk, we can talk.

Happy Birthday @BoBo1946! ;)

loll got’cha C-man!

Generally two times a day however that can spike and dip.

” How often should I plan to have sex” the young groom asked his grandfather on his wedding night. Grandpa said, “When you’re first married, you want it all the time maybe several times a day. Later on, sex tapers and you have it maybe once a week or so.

Then, as you get older, you have sex maybe once a month. When you get really old, you are lucky to have it once a year. Maybe on your anniversary.”

“Well, how about you and grandma now?” the younger man asked.

Grandpa replied, “Oh, we just have oral sex now.”

“What’s oral sex?”

“Well,” said Grandpa, “She goes to bed in her bedroom, and I go to bed in my bedroom.

She yells, “F**K YOU,” and I holler back, “F**K YOU, TOO.

My wife has been way to sick for over a year now so none as of right now.

On an average week I would say…5 times. But there are some days we’ll have sex three times in a few hours, and there are times I’m just not in the mood, ever, and we don’t have sex for a week. Those weeks are bummers.

as often as i can with my wife and when not possible with her, then at least once a day (Hans Solo)

After I lost my virginity, I was up to 3 times a day. Sometimes 5. Currently, I’m at 0 and will probably stay that way for a while.

@Fiddle_Playing_Creole_Bastard Holy shit O.O

When my ex and I were together, it was generally once a day or every couple of days. Maybe twice once and a while.

At the slowest time, 1 every 2 weeks. But typically it’s 1–3 times a week. When we were both working, it was once a week because I was tired a lot more often. With me currently unemployed and super energized, it depends almost entirely on his energy levels.

@wundayatta When I read that about your wife thinking women want less, it made me giggle considering how much more I want sex in my relationship. (I’m the girly.) Definitely depends on the lady.

I also agree with your comments on comparing your sex amount with others.

I’m not married, though If u saw my relationship u might think so, but about 4–5 times aweek, 2–5 times a day ( day as in 24 hours)

I used to have sex up to 3–4 times in a day until I got pregnant >.> I can’t wait to have this baby so I’m not all awkward anymore lol

@Inked_up_chic wow..2–5 a day…awesome! For me, 2–5 a year! loll

I would say we are at the once a month phase of things right now.

At this seminar on sex the speaker asked for a show of hands on the number of times people had sex. He said, “how many people have sex everyday?” .....and a few raised their hand! How about 3 times a week and most of the people raised their hand. Ok, three times a month and only a few raised their hand. Then, he said, “how about ONCE a year!” This guy in the back of the room jumped and SCREAMED, I DO !!!! The speaker said, why are SO excited? The guy responded, “TONIGHT IS THE NIGHT!”

Lol thanks, I can’t have kids so what else is there to do ^_^

loll got’cha…. well, very healthy attitude!

Just an update from my earlier post… went a way for the weekend with a very special friend, my average has been more than surpassed in the past weekend alone, in fact I’d say I’m about two months in front, Lol… & yes! I am just bragging! Lol… ;-0

Good job @Scooby

am i the only virgin here?