Do you appear kind and nice - or is that something that doesn't come naturally to you?

I’m fucking nice.

i am not kind or nice. I’m ok at faking it

I’m really fucking nice ;)

I appear nice and kind and I am nice and kind. However, if I could get “rid” of my SIL without anyone finding out, I would. :-)

I must seem nice and approachable because SOOOOO many strangers just come up to me and ask for advice on very personal problems, or start telling me their life story. not that I mind. What’s really surreal is when strangers tell you how proud of you they are.

Pretty much, yeah. It’s not just a facade either, I do tend to be nice. People tell me I’m easy to talk to and I love that. I don’t like to dislike people and I really can’t stand habitual assholes. So that’s not me.

i appear in whatever mood i’m in.

I’m quiet and nice (or so I’ve been told).

I am open, friendly, humorous and very approachable, no pretenses, and I never take my moods out on others.

Well, bless my heart. Ain’t I, though? :/

I have had friends from college say that when they first saw me they thought I was going to be a bitch. This is before they ever talked to me. Later, I found out generally anyone who dressed in something nicer than jeans, or if a girl was very pretty they assumed she was a snob and a bitch. So, I guess it was a compliment? Meanwhile, I think that is the most ridiculous fucking thing I have ever heard. They must have had hellish high school cliques.

Typically I think people find me to be friendly, helpful, and caring. People seem to open up to me quite easily. I would not describe myself as sweet though.

@JLeslie You said fucking, you said fucking.

I do, actually. It’s a great weapon.

People tend to find me polite and kind, but not approachable. I think it’s because I am aloof and spacey. I don’t think I radiate a negative aura, though. Not usually.

Those who know me will usually throw around the words “sweet” and “adorable.”

Yes, I’m your stereotypical sweet little old lady.

@zen_ Is it not allowed? Am I going to get modded? I just had never heard of such a thing. I remember the second day of people moving in a girl who was in the room accross from mine, we were talking, and a girl who lived at the end of the hall passed by us and she had long blond hair, thin, pretty, and once out of earshot, the girl I was talking to said, “I bet she is a bitch.” I asked, “why.” I really had no clue. I come from a family who admires beautiful people. Anyway, she replied, “because she is so pretty.” I was perplexed. It was the first time I had heard someone say such a thing, and I remember it. But, then I began to realize that other people felt this way.

@JLeslie Just never seen you say that dear.;-)

People apparently find me very approachable. No matter where I go, I am the Question Lady. If someone has a question and I’m in the vicinity, I’m the one who gets approached and asked. Directions, the time, can I use your lighter, “do you know.. ?”—basically everything.

I am a nice, good person and I’m pretty much ‘what you see is what you get’.

Well..lets tally up the results.

15 posts

12 ‘nice’ appraochable, ‘sweet’ and helpful

2 nice but not very approachable

and 1 potential sociopath that’s good at faking it. lololol

Nice. Always.

I’m a lot more vocal here on Fluther (as far as speaking up to fucktards and assholes). With my profession, I have to be good (inside and outside of work).

And, you know what? It wouldn’t matter where I am at. Ask the girlfriend, friends and family.

I think I come off as kind and nice but hard to know. I try hard to genuinely be the first two. All three come pretty naturally to me. So I guess nice but not approachable? Sometimes people tell me I’m approachable. Guess it depends.

@Coloma Let me guess… the lol was for me.

@mamajmah so am I a fucktard, asshole or both?

I look like a bitch because when I’m out in public I seem to put on this grouchy don’t bug me face, and it ain’t so far from the truth. I’m an asshole, but I don’t mind admitting it. I don’t really act like one, but I’m pretty straightforward and dismissive in most of my social encounters with coworkers and fellow students.
Some might say that’s not NOT being nice, but it is if you consider the intent in my head when I have to put up with many peeps.

@zen_

Nope. Not for you. For @woodcutter

You never answered your own question! :-)

I think it depends on the situation. When walking in the streets or malls shopping or touring, my family would say I appear mean. I grew up in New York City. I was attacked once, followed home another time and almost mugged another and not to mention the countless of times bums would approach me. I learned that having a kind looking demeaner just made you a target. So no it just happens without me thinking to always have my guard up.
In a smaller more private setting, people think I’m nice unless something about that person makes me anxious. Then I’m back on guard.
And for anyone who is an a-hole, I know how to be one when I need too.
So I’m whatever I need to be at the moment.
Generally I am nice and have a soft heart for people who need me to be that way, so long as they don’t think my forehead has a sign saying sucker.

I have no idea. I’m polite, and I try to be friendly. I’m not sure how I appear to other people, though. The only thing I’ve heard over the years that people get from my face is that I look sad. People are constantly asking me “what’s wrong?” when nothing is.

Prickly pear cactus, a sabra without being Israeli

I’m almost always nice. I’m no good at being mean.

I cannot say if I truly am nice and kind but I DO appear nice, kind and angelically sweet(I am constantly told). I feel I have a lot of internal work to do though before I honestly fit the external description. I can say that I try not to be on the mean side though!

I’m naturally nice, i don’t have to force it. It depends on the circumstances though, i suppose i can appear not so friendly when i’m irritated. I don’t know, who knows what my facial expressions are all the time! Sometimes i look a certain way to others that tells them that i may be moody, but actually i’m not. I’m generally nice, except when people irritate me or when cashiers don’t bother to greet me for example, i’ll return the favour and they won’t get a smile out of me either.

I’m normally calm and nice with people, but occasionally the inner me who can inexplicably (or not inexplicably) be insecure, angry or blue emerges like a stomach-popping alien. Knowing that about myself, I try to avoid people when I’m in that mode.

What I’m not is an asshole. I know assholes and believe me, I’m no asshole.

I’m a sweety pie sugar puff wrapped in a marshmallow blanket! Now, lets move on to the next pissants crass question :¬)

Nice like beauty is very subjective ! I try to be nice, but occasionally, like everyone, mess up! But, being nice should not be used to get your way, it should be something that you attempt to be toward every person, not just an occasional thing when it’s to your benefit.

I’m civil, I guess, but not overly friendly. More quiet than anything.

I’m nice. Almost too nice at times. You really need to be a major ass for me to not be kind to you.

^^True dat^^

I am nice and kind..sometimes too much. I need to learn how to be an jerk/bitch/asshole sometimes.

I’m very sweet honestly….and helpful.

I didn’t USED to come across like this, and it didn’t help to be raising three little girls lol

But I’ve worked my tail off on this the past three years and can now say I would nearly immediately give you the CORRECT impression of who you would find out later I truly was .

But yes, MANY people give a horrible or inaccurate first impression and need discernment in deciding if maybe they were truly having a tough day