How do you let go/move on?

This actually kind of happens in Thornton Wilder’s play, “Our Town.” It is totally worth seeing the play or reading it. One of the main characters dies and gets a chance to come back—the others in the cemetery try to discourage her and, when she decides she is coming back anyway, they encourage her to pick a really unimportant day. Should she pick an important day, it would be too difficult as she knows how things end.

Another really good book written from the perspective of the deceased is “The Lovely Bones.” I think that book did me more good in working through all different sorts of grief.

I lost my mother when I was 16 years old (12 years now) and I still haven’t been able to let go. I have gotten to the point where I can control my tears and I don’t get mad when one of my friends / acquaintances throws out a “your mom” any more… but she’s always there and I think about her every day… so in my humble opinion, you can’t.

You never let go, you move on but I think you never ever truly let go. Just more excess baggage in life that you cannot travel without until the end of your journey. You just learn to carry that baggage a bit more conveniently, but it never goes. I hope things fall into perspective for you.

I lost a dear friend and crush nine months back. I loved him and thought he was my soulmate. There are days were I feel like I’m getting better, then I wake up and I am four steps back into my depression. I don’t care if I’m handling it correctly or not, it’s how I grieve. Whenever I think about how many months it has been since I got a text or call, I break down. I think to myself “How am I living this far? Not one word? I couldn’t imagine a day without talking to you and I have gone nine months? I should be died. :”(.” I am tearing up while writing this. All I can say is you’ll have your good days and you’ll have your bad days. Just hold on. Everything has to come to an end, no matter how long it seems to go on for.

First off, I’m so sorry for your loss.
I can’t say I know how you feel despite the similar situation I faced since were all different. But I agree with ZEPHYRA about how you can’t really ever let go even though you want to. That person will always be in your dear heart and it’s not easy moving on. Eventually you will, but the first step for me was facing the truth. Writing my thoughts exactly like you did, talking it out crying etc. Music also helped. If you play an instrument you can always dedicate a song and leave your feelings there. After that? I felt as if I needed a big distraction. I was practicallyv done and I wanted to move on, so I left town and went on a trip with my friends and it was fine for a while. Yes I do still have moments, but were only human right? Good luck.