Hypothetical - science has allowed you to determine with certainty if someone that you meet is your soulmate - do you get the device allowing this or do you leave it to chance?

No.What if your soulmate can’t stand you?or is Ghengis Khan? or a goat??? Holy shit! That would be baaaaaad.

I loved that movie.
It’s hard for me to say whether or not I would get one, since I’m already married. I would have to say no. I can’t even think of a reasonable answer to this, because it was so obviously just for the movie… and not at all realistic. Love just doesn’t work that way.

@lucillelucillelucille lol.

I wouldn’t want to get one. I would rather just let it play out naturally without the pressure of knowing that this person is suppose to be my soulmate.

Holy marshmallows, leave it to chance.That’s half the fun. Besides, I like being on my toes. Not knowing when a pan may fly in my direction or a stray elbow. Yeah, variety….....it’s the spice of life you know! :¬)

Hypothetically….No! If I thought I had to wait for an alarm to sound in order for that to happen I most certainly would have missed out on meeting my real life soul mate! ;)

I’d love to have one for kicks, because with me no matter what, if it ever goes off, it is wrong.

I love the idea…and haven’t heard of that film as yet over here in the UK…. sounds good!

But! I wouldn’t want one…kind of messes with the whole point of life

For those saying it ruins the surprise, does it? In the film for instance, people describe it as simply confirming something you, in your gut, already know. It spoils a little bit wondering when and if it will ever happen…but is that spoiling?

In many ways, it’s equivalent (NOT the same as) waiting to figure out if you’re going to have a boy or girl when you’re pregnant. You know that it’s going to happen, and waiting to see what the answer is doesn’t ruin the answer when you get it…but knowing the answer doesn’t ruin the experience of having the child when it happens either.

What it seems to do more is allow you to move your life along more efficiently also – for instance, not fighting to make a bad relationship work under the delusion that you’re meant for each other, and not allowing outside influences to stop you from working on a relationship that could have blossomed into something better.

@iamthemob good points!! I shall think on and come back to you!! :-) x

No, I don’t want my life dictated like that. Although I would like a timer that will tell me when I find my dream career.

@Blackberry

How does that dictate your life, though? It doesn’t negate free will…it merely provides you with an answer.

It’s in many ways like having an answer to “Is there life after death” I think. If you knew that there was or was not, would that affect your ability to make choices about how you lived your life, or would it merely provide you with information to take into consideration in making those choices…

@iamthemob I would discriminate prior women just because I knew they weren’t the one. It would have an effect on my decisions and the way I handle my prior relationships before meeting the one.

Where’s the fun in that????

@Blackberry

Is that discrimination, or isn’t that what you already do? I mean, once you realize that the woman isn’t the one…do you consider breaking up discriminating?

And, if you knew earlier, isn’t it beneficial for them for you to break up? I.e., you’re not wasting their time as well.

@wundayatta

Well, as an example, one of the characters knows she’s not going to meet her one until well into her forties. So, she has guilt-free sexual encounters with men who also have timers, both knowing up front that that’s what they are in it for.

That sounds like fun to me. ;-)

Yes. Otherwise, this could happen.

I have mine hypothetically ordered already from Amazon.

@iamthemob I think we all leave room to believe someone may work out, thinking a bad situation is just a typical fight that we all go through and can be worked out. But if you know it’s actually not them, you will give up easier.

Not to mention we learn a lot from the relationships we have that don’t work out. If we just skip out on those relationships because we know that person isn’t “the one”, then we could be missing out on a lot of learning experiences.

On first thought, I’d get it, sure…then again, what if there are issues with this person and I wouldn’t deal with them in my usual fashion because I’d be distracted by the whole ‘but this is my soulmate’ business and besides, is there a warranty on this thing?

@Simone_De_Beauvoir 7 days with the store, 1 year with the manufacturer.

@bob_ Sucky warranty.

@Simone_De_Beauvoir I know! Freakin’ Office Depot sucks.

I wouldn’t trust science for anything like that it is not open enough.

@JustmeAman – Thus, the nature of a hypothetical.

I know I was just answering just like many do in some of the many religious questions.

Ahh! Thanks, but that’s not what this question was for. ;-)

I know just like those question were not for the same thing.

^ ^ The definition of hijacking.

You get the device.

1. It will cut through plenty of red tape.
2. Soul mates are made not found.

@ChazMaz Three cheers for #2. How often would the device have to recalibrate? Because we all evolve, every day. Somebody who is your soul mate at age 15 might not be at 32 or 59 or 75.

Right, “recalibration”.

And, the soul mate you “found” you have to work hard ever day to keep.

For me, it very much seemed to be more about the device recognizing (1) you being ready to commit to someone, (2) encountering someone where there’s an attraction that could be long lasting, and (3) when that person is in the same emotional place you are.

I think the idea is a bit like Minority Report’s projection of a future crime – and we know how that movie and idea ended.

I don’t think it’s possible – too many variables.

Hypothetically – like most technology/medicine etc. from cloning to stem cell to the genome map… I’d get used to it.

We already have this system in place if you follow the science on emotions, love, sexual attraction, what people refer to as “chemistry”, the neurophysiology and biology of sex, pairbonding and all the rest of the gamut.
There is no such thing as “soul mates”. But what you do have is nature instinctually sounding the alarm (or in your scenario the “the soul mate” alarm) when you come across a person who has similarity in facial features to yourself and family of origin, a very different immunological system (thus the gong sounding when you unconsciously smell their pheromones), and proximity. The only thing that really gets in the way are prior relationships with similar underpinnings.
I don’t need a bracelet to know some fella is setting off my “pheromonal fire down below” bells! And, if we also happen to have reasonable vision for the future…well then…BINGO…we have a match; at least for as long as we are able to hash out conflicts and no interloper appears on the scene.

@Joybird – I love the addition of the “mystery interloper” on the scene. ;-)

@Joybird bravo!!