(nsfw) Who gets more pleasure from sex, the man or the woman?
I heard this joke once, with the question above, and the answer was something like, “Well, think about it this way. When you itch inside of your ear, which feels better afterward? Your finger or your ear?”
So… which is it?
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It depends on the people involved.
For me and my husband it’s equal.
Well, if it is something like a handjob or oral sex, unless you love giving, recieving probably is more physically pleasurable. But if it is something like vaginal sex, I’m not sure…
I think it’s the man, yes the woman gets pleasure but the women also can feel pain too, like if the man is “too big” it can hurt as well as feel good, if the man is “too rough” it can hurt, but on the mans end I think no matter how big he us or how rough he is doesn’t “hurt” him
@Inked_up_chic If the woman isn’t wet enough the initial entry can feel like a dry scrape.
So if a female is getting 50% pleasure and 50% pain she is only getting half the pleasure he’s getting which is 100%. In this “situation” that is
Yes but you can counter that with if she’s not wet enuff she’s not feeling as pleasurable as he is, indicator he’s still hard, she’s not wet…
Are you only asking about a male/female sexual encounter or just men vs. women in general no matter who their partner is?
I know a few women who, to use your analogy, scratch their ear with a Q-Tip and find that more gratifying than someone else’s finger.
If either is willingly doing it, they probably like it. No one will ever really know who likes it more.
@Pied_Pfeffer : Uhm… sort of both? Either male/female sexual encounter and men vs. women (heh, that makes it sound like a competition of sorts), or couples and such.
@MissA : Did what again?
@troubleinharlem
She gave you a very thoughtful answer in her second paragraph. You didn’t notice??? <>
@josie (I believe that would be ‘no one’)
@MissA : But she said “to use your analogy”, which in this case, is sort of false, right? So I didn’t think that it really applied, and she still asked a question directed to me in the first line.
No I never said it was Anybodys fault, I took this question as who during sex gets more pleasure from it. It’s not a matter on who does what wrong…
@troubleinharlem
Loosen up. It was your analogy, in part. If you can’t see the leap, there’s no sense in me mapping it out for you.
Depends on the people, depends on the encounter….
@MissA : I didn’t mean to be uptight about it or anything… And besides that, there isn’t any need to be rude about it – she asked me a question, and I answered it. There’s nothing wrong with that.
gosh.
I guess I took the “man vs. Woman” route
My woman clearly is having the time of her life and so am I and IMO no need to keep score if you both are into it!
@Inked_up_chic : Its all good, don’t worry. (: I was hoping for different sides in the answers so that I could get a round/complete answer, you know?
@troubleinharlem You said: “Well, think about it this way. When you itch inside of your ear, which feels better afterward? Your finger or your ear?”
@Pied_Pfeffer said: I know a few women who, to use your analogy, scratch their ear with a Q-Tip and find that more gratifying than someone else’s finger.
I was not being rude…what makes me so?
@MissA: I know what I said, I wrote the question… Maybe its just me, but I kind of thought that it was rude that your first response to the question was for me to ”Loosen up.” And the ”If you can’t see the leap, there’s no sense in me mapping it out for you.” part didn’t really help either…
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anyway, ah, thank you for your… input. (:
Yeah I get ya, good luck and I’m sorry, I hate when people get argumentive on my question. But some people I guess just can’t help themselves…
My apology to you. It was not meant the way you took it. With my quoting of you both, I was hoping that you’d understand to that which I was referring.
@MissA : Its alright, don’t worry. (: I’m sorry for misunderstanding, also!
@troubleinharlem and @MissA Thank you for kissing and making up. I was feeling so badly about the tiff that the computer crashed. It really did. I’m not making this up.
Who really knows what the answer is? Doesn’t it depend upon the individual, be it male or female?
@Pied_Pfeffer
Funny thing is…I didn’t have an answer.
I was “sticking up” for you. ;) “That’ll learn me.”
– grandfather’s saying.
short term: men, they come a lot quicker
long term: women, they can have multiple orgasms
overall: it’s impossible to tell. just enjoy the body you’ve been given when experiencing the act to its fullest potential.
Your question makes some insupportable presuppositions and generalizations that have no bearing on a question that certainly has no one answer.
You’d have to ask a hermaphrodite.
There’s no way of knowing. We can never know for sure if our feelings are the same or different from other people’s. Add to that the fact that we can never survey enough of the population using a scale that is comparable and calibrated properly, and it doesn’t seem like any useful answer is possible.
We can talk in terms of impressions, and look at what is written in books. Growing up, I was of the impression that men had it better. A lot of women seemed to be complaining that men didn’t care about their pleasure. It was slam, bam, thank you ma’am.
Over the last few decades, I think men have been learning that their pleasure will be a great deal better if they please the woman, too. So now there’s almost a competition to see who can please the other better.
Judging from the people who speak out on fluther, I have to say that women are a lot more lusty than I ever believed growing up. My wife still believes that women are less sexual than men, but from what I have heard here, I no longer believe that. I also know there are a lot of women complaining about men who aren’t interested in sex. Why do we so often seem to end up matched with someone who does not share our level of libido?
Anyway, I’m afraid I’m going to cop out here. I think men and women are pretty equal in their sexual pleasure. We all have people who like it and don’t like it, and hit every point on the spectrum in between. The trick, I think, is to try to mate with someone who shares your libido. If not, that can cause problems down the road.
This is a tough one. I have to say that I think in general the man. Only because there are a lot of times when i’m not wet enough, or i’m worried that i won’t be wet anytime soon so then i get nervous or upset and then once i am wet i’m still tense so then it hurts like a bitch and no one is happy, well i guess that is except my boyfriend because he still has a boner and is just as horny as before. AND, men can get a boner in 10 seconds. i have never gotten wet in 10 seconds. and that can stress me out. i just think that guys don’t have to worry about as much during sex. if i could have sex all the time, not worry about getting pregnant, or not being wet enough, or him being too big, yada yada, i would have 100% pleasure all the time! i love my boyfriend and we have great sex, but it isn’t 100% all the time for me. not even close. and for him it’s probably pretty up there.
@deni I couldnt have said it better myself!
Who ever takes a nap first. :/
Who ever came first.
Who ever came most.
Who ever gets it least and was most desperate to get some.
Who ever didn’t catch a disease.
Depends on who’s holding the camera! Can be slightly off putting :¬)
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