What is a deal breaker when it comes to a possible S/O for you?
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October 19th, 2010
What are things a possible S/O can do, say, wear, etc… that makes you think ”nope cant be with this person”?
Here are some of my “deal breakers”:
Wearing anything other then a specific style of shoes.
Being a messy eater (with the exception of foods like ribs)
Having poor hygiene (if I can see ear wax in your ears im done)
Wears “whitey tighties” (unless your willing to convert)
Has “long hair” (cant be below the top of your ears)
Talking like your “from the ghetto” (” yo dawg, that shits wack! Fuk dem hoes”)
Please no condescending answers like “it shouldnt/doesnt matter to you/me”
A simple, “I dont have any” will suffice.
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Two big things for me were always how they treat children and animals.
If she implements relationship rules that she heard from Lauren Conrad on the hills, sex in the city, or desperate housewives it won’t for me… that stuff is not real world and it’s designed to make you fail so I don’t even bother cause I know the relationship will be full of Drama.
I high pitched, squeaky, little girl voice and any type of shortcomings in the sense of humor department.
@janbb . . . i no i culd cunvert yu in the stupid deparmunt
Bigotry, tobacco smoking, total disregard for her health and/or mine, and cruelty.
Cruelty (been there done that, still dealing with the consequences)
Narrow mindedness
Stupidity @blondesjon could convert me, but I know he’s taken.
Spitting in public
Mullets
Fact from fiction, truth from diction. Deal breakers to me are:
• Lack of trust.
• Lack of honesty.
• Lack of logical thinking.
• Drug use.
• Aftermarket boobs.
• Alcoholic.
• Chain smoker (and no plans to quit).
• Over 5ft 6in tall.
• Over 135lb*
• Previous children.
• Was not born her natural sex (have to be able to have children).
• No desire for kids.
• Bra wearers (and no desire to quit)
*Conditional to height to weight proportions.
Poor dental hygiene would be a deal breaker for me. And no sense of humor. And tobacco use. And cruelty to any animal or to their parents or old people in general.
@SuperMouse Really? Mullets? Um, sure, I agree with that. :-)
@chyna a gal has to have her priorities! I might make an exception for a really wicked mullet because one does not stroll into a mullet like that and the effort it takes is worth something.
@Inked_up_chic
“Wearing anything other then a specific style of shoes.”
Are you saying that a prospect has to always wear the same specific style or else no deal?
“Wearing anything other then a specific style of shoes.”
Really? Wow..
If her index toe was as long or slightly longer than her middle toe.
How could I forget the biggest deal breaker of all for me?: refuses to dye her hair in the colors and design of our glorious American falg! :-P
Edit: I forgot to add, must have my first and last names tattooed across her forehead. :-D
@SuperMouse
“Mullets”
Are you the woman that gave poor Billy Ray his achey breaky heart? ;-)
Im sorry I cant stand shoes like, Jordans, Nike, Rebok, K*Swiss, “boots” unless they are for working out. I prefer convers or “skate shoes”. I like a guys of a certain type/style. In my personal experiance what you wear reflects what your into or what “type” of person you are. Most men that wear the shoes I dont like are not into the same things as I am and act a different way then what I like. Plus I think shoes of that style are hideous.
drugs
heavy smoking
heavy drinking
voice sounds like “Granny” on The Beverly Hillbillies
spitting
stupidity
obvious conceit/self adoration
hoarding
acts and talks like a “player”/sex fiend and/or super boisterous like a pro wrestler Yuck!
obsessed with “ex’s” behavior then and/or now
bad grammar
cheapskate
Other than obvious things, such as likes having sex with the dead or is a crack whore, there is not really anything. just the obvious stuff, dishonest, cheats and so on.
@Inked_up_chic SHOES?? LOL So if a person met all your criteria and you really liked him a lot but he went to put on REEBOKS you’d forget it? How funny!
@Inked_up_chic
I see your point .
In my experience shoes can confuse.
I once wore ice skates to a date and was rejected because she thought I was a figure skater.
Little did she realize that I was a hockey player who was always ready for a game anywhere at anytime!
Religion.
Drug addiction.
Never having a job.
More than 8 kids.
@worriedguy . . . so the old woman who lived in a shoe would have no chance with you?
@Blondesjon HEY; He’s ok; he’ll accept SEVEN kids!! wow! lol
@worriedguy
“More than 8 kids.”
Poor Octomom, alone again. :(
No if he met every criteria of mine I can pass on some things I dont care for, I was just saying… heres an example of what I ment: here is a pic of some of my boys ignore the guns these are the type of guys im into because they are all into everything I am and its the clothing style that come with it. You would never catch any of them wearing the shoes I mentioned. Its jsut an easy way for me to narrow down who I would like and who I wouldnt.
Smoking is the main one for me… ERRRRR the occasional joint not being a problem but smoking daily would be a no, no…… :-/
Also the “Talking like your” “from the ghetto” (” yo dawg, that shits wack! Fuk dem hoes”) Can’t stand that….. OH yeah & poor hygiene! :-/
@Scooby are you being a smart ass? : /
@Scooby ”@Inked_up_chic
Lol,,,,,, that’s me & I have the guns & the knives ;-)”
Chomping and smacking their food and hairy toes!
@Cruiser oh yes I agree with those ones too!!
Believing that happiness and self esteem are gifts that must be supplied by others.
Blond and fair.
@Cruiser kidding? females don’t have hairy toes. Do they??
@Inked_up_chic
The point I was trying to make was anyone of them guys could be me, I have the beard the guns & the knives the tattoos & the battle scars too……. I wasn’t being a smart arse no..
:-/
Although I think my dress sense may be a little conservative :-/
@mama_cakes oh I dont doubt my criteria will change, im just speaking as how I am now.
Oh and BTW I did make the excpetion to the cloths and shoes once, I was at a bar, a guy started talking to me, he was wearing boots, and cloths i really dont find appeling, but he was everything I wanted in a guy so I let it go. we have been together over a year now. thing is he was in his work boots and work cloths and i didnt know that, when i saw him the next day guess what he had on. convers and dressed in what i like (not knowing my preference) that right there proved my point that the guys im into dress a certain way.
@Scooby how so?
Very religious
Homophobic, racist, ableist, misogynist or any other kind of bigotry
Addict (of anything)
Cruelty
Poor hygeine
Long term unemployed and not trying to find work
@Inked_up_chic
I’m just a jeans & T-shirt kind of guy, except when out hiking……
@Scooby I dont think thats conservative, that just sounds like “relaxed” attire
If the person was truly amazing except for one thing, deal-breakers could probably be worked out, but for me, some things that instantly turn me way off are:
Smoking (I can deal with occasional marijuana, but regular tobacco smoker, forget it).
Use of hard drugs.
Low confidence (That whole “I’m a piece of shit” thing turns me off quite a bit).
Poor hygiene turns me off, but it could probably be worked on…
Long hair turns me off. If they weren’t willing to cut it, it’d be hard to find them that attractive.
@DominicX agree on everything but smoking cigarettes i smoke them
Smoking. Smoking. And did I mention smoking?
Stupidity, right-wingedness, fundamentalism of any stripe, dislike for animals.
Oh, and smoking.
@crisw
What’s your opinion on the inhalation of vaporized tobacco? ;-)
@Brian1946
It cannot be printed on a family site. :>)
I will immediately break up with anyone who asks me to marry them…..I state that rule from the beginning. It always surprises me when someone breaks it.
@janedelila why is that? are you just against marriage?
If they are hateful of others, or extremely negative.
@Inked_up_chic I agree with your list. Shoes are so important to me. Only certain shoes I find morally acceptable :)
No deal-breakers here. But there are some deal-makers.
@Inked_up_chic I hate sneakers or running shoes on a guy if they aren’t excersizing (huge pet peeve). I like guys that wear either boots, skate shoes, converse, even certain thongs are okay if appropiate. No birkenstocks. Well I think they should care about their footwear too. It’s just a weird thing of mine.
Narcissim
Mean-ness
People who don’t appreciate my best friend, siblings and parents
People who are rude to vegetarians or gays or others who aren’t exactly, perfectly mainstream whitebread, middle class Americans
Someone who can’t live without punk rock, speed/thrash metal, rap music
Someone who obsesses over sports instead of just enjoying it
Any sign of violence
People who don’t like animals
Drunks and druggies (especially the kind who think they are just recreationalists) the addicts at least have some hope of recovery
People who have no regard for driving laws
People who omit the truth about marriages, extramarital affairs, friends of yours they’ve slept with or how many people they’ve slept with (Wow! 50!!! Really?)
People who make fun of the issues, music, art, hobbies, friends or family that are important to you
Smokers
People who don’t believe/realize that they need deoderant
People with dirty, stinky or un-kept feet: including those who don’t change their socks regularly, or dis-infect their sweaty shoes and feet, or clean and trim their toe-nails,or keep the skin on their feet (especially their heels and toes) exfolliated.
Being imposing. I understand that there are “gives and takes” in any relationship, but it is really annoying when someone else is dictating what you do. It is even worse if they do this using guilt trips.
As has already been said, stupidity and cruelty. That’s about it.
She must have her own hair & teeth. Shallow but fair :¬)
@weeveeship oh I know that type of guy allllll to well :p
Someone smaller than me. I would hate to have to stoop to kiss him :))
@Aster
Men (and women) can exfoliate their own feet at home with one of those nice smelling salt scrubs like this and it makes the skin feel smooth as a baby’s behind. When you have nice feet, your S/O is more likely to want to give you a foot rub, which is likely to be one of the deal makers.
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