Do you kiss your kids on the lips?

If both parties are comfortable, I see nothing wrong with it. My daughter is six and she likes to kiss me on the lips. My 50 yr old sister still kisses my father on the lips. It’s just a quick peck. We are a loving family.

I don’t think it’s either wrong or right; it depends on what the child and parent is comfortable with I guess. My grandmother kisses everyone on the lips, and it’s just something we’re accustomed to. I kissed my daughters on the lips when they were babies, but now that they’re older we stick to cheek kissing and eskimo kissing.

It’s not wrong as long as all participating parties are comfortable with it. My parents never kissed me on the lips (only on the forehead, top of the head, or cheek). But that doesn’t mean I think it’s “wrong”.

It depends on the culture in the family. My family never kissed on the lips therefore I am not comfortable kissing anyone but my SO on the lips.

In our family then we kiss on the cheeks because the thought is lips to lips spreads germs.

No

My family is not especially affectionate, but if a baby kisses me on the mouth I’m not going to protest. I don’t kiss my stepsons on the lips, but my nieces and nephews I do. Not for any specific reason, just worked out that way.

Yes, and I don’t see anything wrong with that. I even kiss my Akita on the lips. Lol!

I grew up in a very non-physical family, where love was not “well-communicated”, either verbally or physically. With my own family, I am very physical with my kids, and they are with me. The love is unconditional, and if this includes kissing on the lips, so be it. At least my kids know they are being loved.

We kiss on the cheeks but either way a family shows affection is good. We are very huggy!

I don’t kiss my sons on the lips but I agree, there’s no right or wrong about it.

I kiss my parents, maternal grandparents, close aunts and uncles, and my siblings on the lips. I don’t see anything wrong with it; I worry more for people who find it disgusting because they are sexualizing familial affection (edit – unless they find the germ factor disgusting, as someone else said).

Yes

I’m more of a cheek kisser but occasionally the kids will kiss me on the lips.

My mom and I used to be big lip kissers but as I got older, we kiss less on the lips but no less than in general.

The way I see it, the woman carried me around for nine months and pushed me out of her vagina. Kissing her on the lips is the least gross part of our relationship.

@KatawaGrey I literally laughed out loud at that one. GA!

@KatawaGrey ; Such a romantic you are!

I’ve always considered kissing on the lips to be an action reserved for romantic love, not other kinds. You wouldn’t catch me kissing any family members (except for my hypothetical wife) on the lips.
But I’m also a person who grew up in a family that wasn’t physically affectionate, so that’s probably why I feel that way.
And I hate that I have this viewpoint but I can’t actually give it a logical reasoning. Excuse me while I go yell at myself.

@Sarcasm

That’s how I feel as well. My family was definitely physically affectionate, but kisses on the lips are reserved for romantic situations in my mind. My parents felt that way and so I do, still. There’s nothing wrong with that.

When they were babies. Use to make a popping sound on their lips and it would make them laugh.
But once they were teething it wasn’t funny any more. They were always drooling. Then after that I just didn’t want them to see it as normal behavior except between adults, and some sicko take advantage, plus kids don’t need the extra germs handed to them.

Yes…one is 4 and a half and one is almost 2…I don’t plan on stopping any time soon and I could care less whether it’s right or wrong.

It does not matter where you kiss them as LONG AS YOU KISS THEM!!!!

@Simone_De_Beauvoir My sister would kiss you right now. :)

I agree with @sarcasm, I personally feel weird kissing on the lips outside of romantic relationships. I wonder if that will change with age; I am young and I’ve only been kissing for five years. Maybe when I’ve spent 20 years kissing the romantic aspect will wear off and I’ll kiss anyone and everyone on the lips.

@jonsblond all right.

When my children were small I would hug and kiss them on the cheek and their neck.
They have grown up now and still get a kiss on the cheek.

My daughter liked to kiss me on the lips when she was smaller. She stopped liking it when she got to be a teenager.

When they were really little, absolutely I did. Now however it’s kind of a “back off Dad” kind of vibe. Cheeks are still good to go though, as are big squeezy bear hugs. Never too old for those babies!! :¬)

It might also be a culture thing depending on soceity. The Andamanese only used to kiss their children, kissing was a means of parenting affection.

I kissed my mother on the lips till the day she died. My son started to feel too old for kisses like that at about 10. My 9 year old daughter still wants “yippy kisses” (back from the days when she couldn’t pronounce her “Ls”), but not in front of her friends.
My husband, on the other hand, has never been comfortable with kisses on the lips from his kids. But he was raised in a very emotionally distant family.

@AGN I want yippy kisses!

no yippy kisses for me… i don’t think i’ll ever kiss my mom on the lips, Oedipus Rex or Marty Mcfly might but i won’t. _

You ALWAYS want yippy kisses!

No, but I have nothing against doing it. ((-:

I perfer to kiss anyone other than my hubby on the cheek.

Well, I used to kiss my kids on the lips, but it’s pretty rare now. The oldest two (11 and 7) outgrew it long ago. My youngest is five, and lippy kisses (as he calls them) are getting more and more rare. Sometimes when I’m tucking him in at night he will still kiss me on the lips, but he’s certainly starting to outgrow it. My husband and I both still kiss the kids on the cheek, forehead, or top of their head pretty regularly!

My family was not physically or emotionally affectionate at all. I really don’t know how kissing my kids on the lips got started, but I never gave it a thought until a question was asked about it here on Fluther a while back. We’re a more affectionate family in general than my family was, and even my husband’s distant relatives are free with the hugs and cheek kisses.

I don’t think there’s a right or wrong, just a comfort level that is going to vary from family to family and even person to person. The important thing is that each person’s boundaries are respected.