OK: do you know anyone who was a nervous wreck, went to the doctor requesting a sedative but was rejected?

I have been refused before when I was totally upset so I just went to a different doctor.

If you go to a good doctor requesting specific medication you will often be refused on the simple grounds that the doctor wants to understand your case history, your physiological functioning, any drug or other allergies, etc. And if he doesn’t know you, and is a responsible doctor, then he’s going to want to do some kind of written case history (from you, or records from an earlier physician) and an exam.

Any doctor who would prescribe medication on a new / unknown patient’s say-so is irresponsible, a “Doctor Feel-good”.

He was her family doctor. I cannot imagine anyone minding giving their medical history, having tests done and medical records transferred for 30 pills.

Huh? I’m confused. Who is who in this story? Who went to the doctor, who needed pills, why a woman was planning her wedding when her husband just died (did she immediately meet a new man and decide to marry him right away, while still distraught over her late husband?) And then the post takes a weird turn into what I think is you accusing doctors of keeping the fun drugs for themselves instead of helping patients out with them, but I’m really not sure.

Deep breath. Now start over.

lol My friend’s niece went . See, it had been awhile since he shot himself but she wasn’t “over it” by the time her wedding came about. I mean, her son was traumatized. I don’t know when she met the new husband but between her 2 kids being on drugs and the suicide and the wedding….

Ok. So, the niece is getting re-married. She has two kids, both teens, both on drugs (like pot or like Prozac?). She goes to the doctor, asks for something to help her with her anxiety, and the doctor says no. Tell me if I got anything wrong.

First, it would depend on how she asked. Doctors are generally more open to “I need something that will help with the anxiety” than “I need Xanax/Valium/whatever”. Part of this is because drug addicts aren’t concerned with fixing the pain, they’re concerned with fixing the, well, fix. Non-addicts are much more open to a different drug that the doctor thinks will work. Doctors are also pretty big on you letting them do the doctoring, which means letting them figure out which treatment is best.

If her kids are addicts, the doctor may also be concerned that she has a genetic predisposition towards addiction, and doesn’t want to start her on anything she can’t stop.

Or, maybe the doctor is just uptight and doesn’t hand out the fun drugs no matter what.

What to do: She should go back to the doctor. Re-explain her issue, and ask for help. Help may come in the form of talk therapy, or a medication that isn’t also a controlled substance (perhaps an SSRI). Or, the doctor will not help her as she needs, and she should get a different doctor for this issue.

You keep referring to them as “fun drugs.” Nothing is “fun” when you’ve been through all that.
Gotta run…

@Aster No, but they are the drugs that are stolen out of medicine cabinets and sold on streets for a reason… No one’s selling Lipitor on the streets.