How can I walk into Starbucks without feeling bad?

You’ve got a situation on your hands. You mentioned that you flirted on accident. I think it’s safe to assume that Bob took it as flirting and liked it. If you want to continue going to that store, you’re going to have to start treating him like a proper barista. Don’t do anything differently than you would with any other friendly barista. Be nice and pleasant. Tip him and leave it at that. Make a point of being friendly even to the unfriendly workers there. Stop showing favoritism.

OR

Get to know him better outside the cafe. Ask him out. Who knows? You might find the love of your life, if you’re looking for one, that is.

@hawaii_jake I try to be friendly with the other baristas as well but, they are just so rude and they dont even try to make conversations with any customer so the only baristas I’ve had decent conversations with are Bob and the other guy. At least these are the only ones that work that shift when I go.

And as for trying to know him better, isnt it already weird? He doesnt look at me the same and I cant even look at him in the eye without thinking hes judging me.

Well, @hellafella, I can’t tell you exactly what to do. If it was me, I would revert to my old nice behavior to him, and then just see where the wind blows it.

Do you have any male friends that could play your boyfriend for a few days so he thinks you are taken.

Stop flirting with Bob. It is ok to have him as a friend though. Try not to “read” someone else’s thoughts.

Lol… I had something similar happen to me a few years ago but it was a sandwich outlet. A particular lady would always be at the counter when I went for my lunch, or she just seemed to be the one who served me & made my sandwich.. The banter was always great & we had a good laugh, till one day she seemed to be in a right strop, then it came “so who was that girl I saw you with yesterday at the bus stop”. As a matter of fact it was a work colleague who I happened to share the bus home with at the time but this was getting a little to personal for me… I think it was around this time I started taking a packed lunch to work & a flask… :-/
Stop being so bloody nice,, Lol……;-)

I’m a volunteer at the RedCross. A donor would come In that could donate every two weeks. I began to flirt with him. When he asked me out I asked him if my husband could come along. I had NO idea how to handle it and I hadn’t expected it. That wasthe only way I could think of that would say absolutly not and let him save face. (Other people were there also). I thought since that I shouldn’t have done that, but I didn’t have any other idea how to say no around other people at the time. We are still friends, and later I apologized for it.

Hahahaha. Nice.

Are you receiving free refills? if so, this may be the reason they are talking about you and looking your way.

Buy instant tea and prepare it at home, before you leave.

Problem solved.

Stop going in for a while. When you go back, don’t flirt just act natural. You say the other baristsa are rude. That should be OK with you as long as they get your drink right.

You are building this up too much in your mind.

IMO you are over thinking the problem. Bob is probably actually thinking about something else.

Don’t trip