Why does he stare at me if he has a girlfriend?
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October 22nd, 2010
Theres this guy at my school and he looks at me all the time. He looks at me so much i would’nt of even noticed him if he did’nt look at me as much as he does, i even catch his eyes a couple of times and he never looks away. So just the other day i acknowledged him and said hi and he looked at me real quick and said hi and he has a light nice not deep. I said how are you and he said fine and he looked at me really quick i said whats your name and he did’nt pause to tell me so i asked him did he have a girlfriend and he said yea and had his head down and didnt even want to look at me! so i said stop sign and walked away (because i am not getting beat up for him!) and then i am about to walk out the door and i turn around and hes staring at me again! and i was thinking to myself he just told me he had a girlfriend hes been staring not looking at me ever since august when school started! I don’t know what to do or say i mean i think hes cute but i would of thought he would of said something else but instead he sounds really nonchalant and he only looked at me for about 2 seconds before he looked away but usually we would meet eyes for like 5 seconds if i was not talking to him and i was very shy but i talked to him anyways because i just wanted to know if he would like to do much more than just stare at me everyday. Im confused now.
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You can be attracted to more than one person at a time…........
The old saying, you can still look at the menu, but knowing you are on a diet.
He’s a guy. It means his eyes are open.
He is looking at you lustfully. If it was me, I would tell him to stop staring.
1. He’s shy, at the very least. Shy people have a lot of coping mechanisms in place (if they’re able to) so that they can function in public environments with people they don’t know well.
2. Who knows what he was thinking when you asked him if he has a girlfriend? He may have been thinking that you’d think less of him if he couldn’t even attract any other girls, and he may have lied. Next time you ask him—if you do—he might actually have a girlfriend, and he might lie again (thinking that this is the answer that you wanted to hear).
3. Yeah, if he likes you then he should come out and do something about that, but he may be incapable. If you like him, then there’s no rule that precludes you from acting. Just because he has “a girlfriend”—if he really does—is no reason that he can’t have a different or better one if you want to take the initiative here.
4. What everyone else said, too.
You don’t look at the mantle piece when you’re poking the fire! Work that one out :¬)
First of all….this isn’t about love. This is about sexual attraction. You can’t legitimately get to love until some level of emotionally intimacy is created unless of course you are a terribly shallow person which I seriously doubt you are.
This fellow has a relationship but he is sexually attracted to you….literally can’t take his eyes off of you. He’s got a dilemma now. He back peddles when you talk to him because it solicites guilt. He knows he’s sexually attracted but talking to you takes it to another level in his mind…it feels wrong to him…so he looks down and away at the mention of a girlfriend.
Now that’s not such a bad thing. It means he has a conscious.
But you need to put it out there that he’d need to break it off with the current girlfriend before you would consider putting yourself out there and building any emotional intimacy with him. To do otherwise is to invite drama. You don’t want drama in your educational airspace. It’s a real distraction.
Do either of you work at Starbucks?
Because at your age, newly blossoming hormones want all the goodies.
Don’t take it personally, and go on about your day.
He’s not married..and, not blind!
You can look at the menu as long as you dont order…..
He’s attracted to you or finds something really interesting about you. He’ probably shy around you since he like you. I do that sometimes, but I don’t do it like he does I guess?
Do you look like Lisbeth Salander?
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