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What does it mean when I keep having dreams about the same female often?

Asked by The_Invisible_Man (448points) October 24th, 2010

For months I’ve been having dreams about this one female I nearly dated. Back when she liked me anyway. We’re just friends now, but we used to talk a lot, and we was pretty close. I suppose we still are, but she really doesn’t bother to hold a conversation with me any longer. Well. Sometimes in my dreams she’s always having fun with my friends, and she’s completely ignoring me. While in very few it’s only us two, and she shows great interest in me. We’ve never met before, but over the course of a year and a half, I’ve grown to like her on another level. I’m she she knows, but I really don’t know. Just wondering what it means when I have dreams about her like that, and why so frequent do I have dreams about her.

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ZEPHYRA's avatar

Deep-rooted passion?

ANef_is_Enuf's avatar

It sounds like you are still interested in her… or that you were deeply bothered by the way things fizzled out.

ZAGWRITER's avatar

It’s your inner-voice trying to give you confidence about getting to know her more intimately. She would fit in around your friends without you having to hold her hand. You would also do fine by yourself with her, being able to hold her interest. Trust your inner voice and see how it goes!

kenmc's avatar

It means you should go bungee jumping immediately.

Dreams don’t mean shit, buddy. Your conscious mind is far more important.

BarnacleBill's avatar

Sounds like you regret not dating her. If she’s not holding her own in the conversation any more, you missed your chance, and she’s moved on.

choppersangel's avatar

Look at the dream as being a reflection of your own inner processes, rather than relating directly to individuals separate from you. So, this person represents an aspect of yourself. The repetition of the images, the scenes you describe, suggest that although you were never intimate, you were indeed touched by intimacy through talking and spending time with her.

It seems likely that you lack some company in your world. This person represents times when you were able to talk openly, speak your mind and have some trust in the response. She talks with other people, she seems to be sociable and she has fun, while you look on. This is your own ‘inner female’ persona, showing you things that perhaps you find hard in your everyday life.

I have kept dream diaries and analysed dreams for 20 years or so, it can be hugely helpful to be really honest with yourself about your own dream content.

My suggestion would be, (rather than approach this person or try to revive the relationship) to look at your own friends, your social circle, activities and see whether there is something you would like to improve.

A very useful technique is to simply ask for clarity from your own dreaming mind, before you sleep. Spend a few moments, as you go to bed, thinking on these dream images. Be honest. Allow yourself to really look at what is going on, it is entirely private and entirely yours. Then think to yourself, or say out loud ‘I want to know more about what this means, please tell me’. You could also ask for your friend (in your dreams!) to say something to you that would help.

Give it time and do it more than once if you need to. I’m pretty sure you will find out for yourself what it is about and you will feel better and gain confidence.

Good luck, and happy dreaming.

roundsquare's avatar

Give her a call and hang out. See if it works out.

Not because of the dream, but just in general.

Also, because you are dreaming about her.

MilkyWay's avatar

it means ur thinking of her way too much, in real life if she dont give a damn, just leave it.
dreams only relay your emotions in this case what you want to be seeing.
hope it turns out OK

Megaperceptiva's avatar

I think you’re regreting not dating her. You really like her.

CMaz's avatar

Lusting.

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