When your boyfriend wants to get serious and acts strangely as if he owns you, and you don't want that, what would you do?

For what it’s worth, I agree with @noelleptc. If you don’t want to, don’t do it.

I believe I would dump him. ;)

If he’s trying to tell you who you can be friends with and who you can and can’t spend time with, I’d suggest that the relationship doesn’t really sound like it’s off to a healthy start.

Just my opinion.

Everything is telling you to break up with him except your friend! Why are you listening to her? There are lots of other guys out there. You are 17. You have plans.

This guy is way too demanding and controlling.

Break up with him!

From the way you describe it, it doesn’t sound healthy, nor is it good for you. He is trying to keep you away from your friends, which means he doesn’t really trust you. Has he been burned in the past?

If you do break up, do it fast. Just tell him your reasons and stick to it. Don’t keep on weakening and going back to him. That does neither of you any favors.

If you want to try to keep the relationship, just tell him you aren’t serious. You’re just interested in dating. You want to continue to see your friends, and if he doesn’t want that, he should find someone else. Again. Stick to your guns. Do not let him weaken you. If he sees he can’t do that, he’ll probably not be interested anyway, because he can’t control you.

Let’s see…
– he wants a serious relationship, and you’re ambivalent about that and don’t really like it
– you want to have male friends outside of “the relationship” and he gets mad about it
– you want to go abroad for your education, and he only pretends to agree, while he tries to make you change your mind
– you want to break up with him and your friend wants you to stay with him?
– you’re making changes and choices in your life just to please him (and your friend), and they aren’t suitable choices for you

So…

You should do what your first inclination was, “Thanks, but I’m not interested in a serious relationship at this time. You want more from me than I’m prepared to give you.” What you shouldn’t tell him, because it will probably make him angry (because it’s so close to home), “You’re too demanding and controlling. I’m not going to be your pet.”

I agree with everyone who has said this isn’t healthy.

you say NO i am not ready if you cant respect that then leave. he seams insecure and controlling you will only hurt you and not change how he feels lay down the law and live your life you are 17 worry about boys when you get older until then have fun and enjoy life etc etc you heard it all before. Buy him a porn mag next time he pressures you give him that and say nock yourself out and leave the room.

Be true to yourself.

Do you know how many people allow themselves to stay in relationships for unhealthy reasons such as guilt, fear of hurting another, etc.

You are only 17, don’t settle, and whatever you do, don’t take any chances on an ‘accidental’ pregnancy happening.

You owe this guy nothing except honesty.

Go to school abroad. You are very young and should be experiencing what life has to offer.

As others have stated he sounds very controlling. A big red flag is that he is trying to control who you see. That is not ok. That kind of behaviour only gets worse.

You need to do what you want to do.

Having no boyfriend is much, much better than having a controlling, manipulative boyfriend. Your friend must think the opposite—a bad boyfriend is better than no boyfriend. And a controlling boyfriend is a bad boyfriend. She is not you. It sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders; always be true to yourself.

You are way too young to be saddled with this. Tell him you don’t want a serious relationship and that you ARE going to study abroad and that do you do NOT want a serious LD relationship. Open yourself up for serious relationships when you have finished your education. That can’t be stressed enough.

I agree 100% with @CyanoticWasp, especially the part of not bringing up that he’s acted possessively during your relationship, you don’t need him to get scary or desperate.

Pretend that he does not exist then try to think about what you really want in life. Now paste him into that picture. If he doesn’t fit with that portrait, tell him you need to do things for yourself first before you can have a serious relationship. If he is that hung up on you, maybe he will wait? If you stay with him and you become miserable, you may miss many opportunities that you’ve only thus far dreamed about. Best work on making YOUR dreams a reality, not his. Best of luck with this though. If you need to talk, you are more than welcome to send me a message.