What different set of rules do you have for different family members and why?

You worded this funny and it makes it hard to understand, sorry. You said “what else do we change our rules and why?” Do you mean, “what other rules are different for your family”?? Or do you mean “what rules are different for each family member in our families”
Sorry I don’t understand which is the perfect question for me right now. I think that it’s cool that you don’t mind taking care of your parents but dont your kids taking care of you. In America we dont always take care of our elderly. We did, we took care of my grandpa for 14 years. Work on that retirement plan so you can have your independence your entire life.

I think you got the jest of it. You just over thought it.
Yeah, working on that retirement.

If you live long enough, eventually you will loose the ability to either think for your self and or care for yourself. The question then becomes, do you want to spend the money you hopefully have on having a stranger take care of you or your loved ones who just may want to help the parent they love?

Either way, rules of life are not hard and fast and can easily be broken or modified to fit the situation.

I’m with you MsP!

I have a brother who is widely considered the “black sheep” of the family, and because of it no-one expects anything of him – be it turning up to family occasions or doing presents for people or paying money back when lent to him… the expectation is absolutely there for the rest of us.

The rules change for different ages of family members and different stages of life. I seriously doubt your parents expected to be dependent on you when they were your age.

@YARNLADY Oh, I know. My mother keeps planning her death every day since she was 45 but she is still doing well at 88 years old.