Do you ever feel odd knowing a lot of very personal information about former lovers?

No, but GQ.

I don’t feel uncomfortable about it. I am conscious about not bringing it up, especially if others are around. It is their story to bring up again, should they so desire, and theirs to tell to people in their current and future lives.

Not really, because I haven’t spoken to my ex in over 16 years, and she very rarely comes up in conversations that I have with those who don’t know her intimately.

I’ve been with my wife since then, and for those reasons I almost never ponder any of the intimate times that we had.

Also, she lives about 1,300 miles away and isn’t really in touch with any of us down here.

However, I could see that being a concern for me if she socialized with us at least occasionally.

No, not odd but honored. I look at it as a sacred trust. My exes are a part of my story as I am of their’s. I treasure the good, bad, and ugly info – and I treat such knowledge with the same respect, carefulness, and dignity I use for my own self-knowledge.

I like @prolificus ‘s answer. It is a sacred trust to be shared with no one else – exactly as you would like your information to be treated.

The odder the better as it makes for an all the more colorful canvas of my life. My life has hardly ever been boring and have a lot of good stories I could tell but I won’t. ;)

Yes I do.

I never really thought about this before, so good question. I tend to feel protective towards my exes with regard to their vulnerabilities. I’m also the guardian of many secrets shared with me by virtual strangers… I think I just have ‘that kind of face’ or something, that makes people want to tell me things. It’s all in the vault.

I have thought about this and I agree with @prolificus. I feel I have a responsibility to keep their information private. That goes for friends and even strangers who have trusted me with private details. ( Even if I came by the information accidentally, and they don’t know that I have this knowledge.)

I would be uncomfortable sleeping with a person if I didn’t have some glimpse into their closet. But I am pretty good about keeping my mouth shut about other peoples personal stuff.

No.

You are dangerously close to becoming a yenta! Just chill…

No, because after the first few months where that person enters my mind from time to time, I tend to forget about them completely. I’m not one of those people who talks to their ex-es, so I’m not constantly reminded of them or how well I know them. It all fades eventually.

@Tomfata Who? Me?

I bumped into my ex-husband about 6 years after we had split. He was in a local café with my brother-in-law. For a brief time I waited for my bro-in-law to introduce me to his friend. We were all surprised, but I garnered some pleasure from not being able to recognize him. His dirty laundry belongs to another hapless laundress now. Hallelujiah.

I would never betray someone’s trust, even if we were no longer together, and even if the break-up was nasty. There’s no need for that. Besides they could do equal or more damage to me if they wanted to. There’s another reason that a secret is safe in my hands. I quickly forget. Oh so quickly.

Yeah, it’s a little awkward, for sure, especially in a social setting. When you’ve been so intimate with someone and know them so deeply in a way that others have not known them.

It is an odd sort of baggage. Very good question – I’d never really thought about that either. I know the people I trust with certain information and know on that level wouldn’t betray that trust (even though I may get paranoid and ask just to be sure) and I keep theirs to myself as well. In a way I also feel honored when somebody feels like sharing something with me. I’m pretty trustworthy. It does make things a bit strange when the relationship changes though.