When you have goals how do you commit to them to really make them happen?

Start by making the goals reasonable and write it down. If it is a tangible or real thing you want cut out a picture and tape it to the bathroom mirror, and put another where you can see it at work. Visualizing that goal on a daily basis is paramount to making it a reality. Also, create benchmarks that you achieve along the way so you can monitor your forward progress. I have done this and it is very effective of keeping your eye on the ball and the positive frame of mind required to reach your goal.

I break the end-goal into smaller, more manageable benchmarks, and then I set a schedule for achieving those benchmarks. It keeps me on-track.

How do guys (romantic relationships, right?) distract you from achieving your goals? A relationship can be like a partnership, you can support each other, help each other, motivate each other. Life alone is hard…

i just recently started writing my goals (so many of them) and I hope that is a good start because as i relook at them it reminds me of the importance of each of them…
Guys are just a distraction and they should not get in the way of the path of your goals and if they are then you need to decide what is more important, seconds of pleasure or your goals (real talk)
you can also find a book that teaches you how to go about accomplishing everything that you want, but one thing to keep in mind is that anything that is worth anything is always going to take time…

I avoid everything that can distract me from my goal.

@nicobanks: Agreed, a guy or a relationship should not be a distraction from accomplishing anything in life, cause it is hard all by itself…
One good thing to also have with managing goals is a time frame, 3 months 1 day and etc.. Also make small ones, they will be easier than having everything happening at once..

This is a great question. I wish I could write the process here but it is way too long but it completely works. We as humans all react to our experiences basically the same. In other words when something traumatic happens we reason with it and do what we need to, to get over it or through it all. This sets off a trigger in our mind and it then becomes automatic to do the same thing when something happens that is like what happened. This is called bringing your past forward and making it your future. There is a process to end that so that you find yourself with nothing and from nothing you can create anything you want it to be. I have taken some really good courses to learn this and it really has been beneficial. I create and do my goals and have reached everyone as I have set them. I am working on others all the time.

Have casual sex. It satisfies immediate needs so you can get back to focusing on more important goals.

I am in the exact same boat as you. What has helped me with my distraction (girls) is not saying I cant date, I’m just not going to pursue anyone. I know if the right one comes it won’t matter where I am in life. The wrong one’s always seem to end up a distraction anyways. So my suggestion would be just focus on you and let him find you and work around your schedule cause your worth it!

Don’t get side tracked by stuff. It’ll take you away from the goal. But just keep striving and concentrating on it. You’ll reach it someday I know you will :3

Set a long-range goal ( 15 – 20 years out is about right ) that’s a real stretch for you, but not impossible. Then interview people who have already reached that or similar goals to discover what they had to do or be just before reaching that goal.

Work your way backwards, setting imtermediate goals based upon what your research says people had to do or be to reach each intermediate goal. Work this process backward until you know what you have to do TODAY to work toward your long-range goal. Put a post-it note with today’s objective(s) where you will see it first thing, pehaps on the mirror in the bathroom.

If you follow this system consistently over time, you will succeed. I can almost guarantee it, since so few people have the self-discipline and perseverance to follow such a system.

I used this and I always achieved my goals. MY problem was that I wasn’t ambitious enough and I tended to set my goals lower than I could have reached. If you think you’re going to have real trouble reaching your goal, set it just a little bit higher. : )

Good luck! : )