Does your birth order affect your romantic compatibility?

I am the baby and I am dating someone who is the oldest.

I’m in the middle (second-oldest of four) and I’m dating an only child.

I am the youngest and I married the second oldest.
His brother and I don’t see life the same way. Sometimes I just think he was dropped on his head.
One thing would be hard to factor in.
Not all youngest are the same or oldest are treated or grow up the same way.
I was the baby but I was always held responsible for my youngest brother because my mom felt I had the most sense.
Teachers and other parents always told me that I was born 30 years old. Not because I behaved old but I reasoned everything out before attempting anything new.

No, birth order determinism has been debunked.

@YARNLADY Do you have a citation on that? I’ve studied birth-order all of my life and I’m unaware of it being debunked.

I’m a middle child and I married a youngest child. I’ve been told that I read as an oldest child though.

I had never heard this before. I’m the youngest and married one that was in the middle. The first time I married I marred the middle as well.

I have always been slightly dubious about the whole “birth order” thing, mostly because the whole theory stops at three and I am number four of six kids. My man is an oldest/only, his only sibling is quite a bit young and a half sister. So in order to make it apply to us I would say I am a middle child and he is an oldest child. We are doing pretty well together.

My family is huge and would not fit the 3 member thing. My grand mother had 14 children and my mother 8 children. My brother has 9 children and so forth. Does order fit this kind of family?

Absolutely. The references I’ve read often break down the “middle child” into three distinct groups for large families and I’ve even seen studies that looked specifically at the second to oldest and second to youngest in large families as well.

I think the power of birth order to determine psychology is often overblown, but it’s hard to imagine that something that was so omnipresent in your development would not have a significant effect on your psyche.

(Oh, and for the record, middle child, married the youngest)

I have dated from all steps of the ladder.

Me being the youngest.

I’m the oldest (out of 2) and my husband is the 3rd (out of 4). My bother (the youngest) married a middle child (out of 3).

For what it’s worth, my younger son ( the youngest of five ) married the oldest of five. : )

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I am an oldest and married a youngest.