What should I wear to the wedding today?

You say dress one is a tight squeeze. Is it so tight you won’t enjoy yourself dancing, or sitting for a long time? I say it’s important to look great, but more important to feel comfortable.

I’m going to try it on again this afternoon and see how it feels.

I think you should go for Dress two. You need to feel comfortable to feel your best.

Yeah, I’m with dress two, dance, eat, have fun… Besides, it’s in very bad form to look better than the bride!

I would go with dress number one.

Tough one. Any chance you want to run into Macy’s and see what’s new? Or, double check your closet for a dress you have forgotten about? I think I would squeeze into dress one if I can still sit and dance. Can you girdle to give yourself a few more milimeters of room?

Wouldn’t it be great if you all could come over to my house for a brunch and try on consultation?

Oh! On my way! Will there be quiche? I love quiche…

@JLeslie Just can’t see buying something new when I have two “perfectly good” things to wear. And haven’t done a girdle since high school.

@JilltheTooth I guess a brunch would be counter-productive to my goal of losing ten pounds by this afternoon, but sure, quiche is on the menu.

@janbb yeah, I would be the same. I recently had the same dilemma, wound up wearing a dress I had forgotten about, but it was still a squeeze.

That’s why God made Spanx. (really helped when I went to a wedding last year…) :-)

Which outfit has the more comfortable shoes?

Will you run into people from your past at this wedding? If so, then definitely outfit 1. If it’s family, or people you won’t see, then go for comfort.

Dress one.Knock ‘em dead! have fun! :)

BTW, the second outfit sounds really nice.

@janbb: How about a compromise? Wear the LLBean mosquito net suit. You did save it, surely?

You had already made up your mind when you used the word “frumpier” to describe the second dress.

You have all year to dress frumpy and comfy. Put on dress one and knock em dead for one evening! ;)

Your description of “frumpy” for the second outfit may not be right. It sounds pretty. You bought it—was it “frumpy” then? I am thinking for a wedding, it might be the right one. You want to be comfortable and not squeeze into something that will possible make you uncomfortable or feel like you squeezed into something. My bet is the frumpy is lovely, and will make you happier than the sexy, tight dress for a wedding. Whatever you wear, though, the eyes are on the bride. So, don’t worry, be happy.

Well, I will have the final try-on and decision when my husband comes home to zip me in. You are all invited to the viewing – Not! – but I will update you about the decision.

@BarnacleBill You make a great point about the shoes. I will probably wear the same black low heels with each, but with the long dress, I could bring black sandals to change into for dancing.

Just got my hair cut and colored and it is a rich chestnut so would definitely look good with the emerald green.

I do love my Jelly friends!

now I wanna see pics.

I may post them.

Dress 2. I’m willing to bet you’re drop dead sexy whatever you’re wearing so why not be comfortable too.

@Lightlyseared Thank you! (Now I definitely can’t post pictures though.)

Update: The black dress fits fine (and it is 12 years old!) and I feel great in it so I’m going with that. It is not inappropriate just shows mreo cleavage than I usually do. Will probably throw my sandals into the car in case my feet get too tired from dancing.

@gailcalled The L.L. Bean mosquito netting was a close second.

Have a great time @janbb!

I would love to see mreo cleavage. Hell, I’d be happy to know just what that even is.

dress one. i think it’s important to look sexier than the bride.

@CyanoticWasp Well, you’re certainly old enough by now to know!

@tinytinytigers Believe me, that would not be a competition I would win.

I would go with the green one. The black one, you said, was a little tight. You don’t want to upstage the bride by looking too sexy. Plus the green one will allow you to eat and dance and not feel uncomfortable. It sounds very pretty to me. I love emerald green. Have fun.

Take both, change halfway through, mess with everybody’s heads.

And use the LL BEan mosquito suit as a wrap when the sun sets.

@janbb it’s sadder than you may think: I’m old enough to have forgotten.

Update: Wore dress #1 (sexy black). Just about everyone was in black cocktail dresses so I fit in well and the dress was a comfortable fit and I could eat and dance in it.