How do I meet new people?

Find people who share the same interest as you do. Join clubs, like the Sierra Club for hikers, or a book club for readers. Attend community meetings and get involved in local planning and activism. Become a Red Cross or Community Chest/ United Way volunteer.

Read this, & this article. It may help you to come out from the situations you have fell in.

Just go outside your room, you can see so many persons.

critically judge your action towards others so as to ensure your motive is pure, meaning that you desire that which is beneficial to them even at your expense.

when you live this way all your fears will vanish, you will not see yourself as needing any friend and you would have many.

people usually love those who are genuinely interested in them.

There are a lot of people out there who have the same interests as you. All you have to do is go out and find them. Now you can do that by going to places that you think people of the same interest might be. If it’s a local library – go ahead. Coffee shops, there are always people doing something there.

Take a chance! Essentially, I’m in agreement with the advice that kess gave you. When in a social situation, ask yourself “What would I do if I was more outgoing?” and then behave as if you were answering the question with your behaviour, even if it’s saying something apparently foolish, like “You know, I’m really stuck, I don’t know what else to say to you!”. You’ll be surprised where that can take you. All the best!

@kess Nice answer :)

The only way to get over your reluctance to meet new people is to go out and meet new people. You have to force yourself to do it. Try going to a place you never go to, perhaps several miles away, and make a point of introducing yourself to everyone. This way, if you make some sort of error, you won’t have to worry about it coming back to haunt you.

Find a place on the internet that you like and hang out there. The people will come.

@wundayatta

True enough, especially when you couple it with meeting people in person, or perhaps meeting people in person later?

I know that it may be hard, but just step a little out of your comfort zone. If you see someone that maybe you would want to talk to just smile at them, ecspecially a girl. She may say something to you. And if not just say hi. Whats the worst that will happen?

@CaptainHarley Certainly, meet them. Once you’ve established a good rapport with them online and it is clear there is significant interest.

Volunteering is a great way to meet new people. Sign up for a group volunteer project like planting trees, doing a cleanup project (other volunteer projects like tutoring kids can be really fulfilling but you are not likely to meet as many other peers). Also, classes, especially group classes where you interact with other people, like a dance class…or a sports team. Even if you are not particularly athletic, there are games like Kickball (yes – for adults) that have become really popular in big cities lately. You can also checkout websites like MeetUp where you can connect with people who have similar interests and meet up with those groups in person. If you belong to a faith-based group, your local church or religious center probably has a lot of options for group activities where you can get to know people as well.

@wundayatta

That too, but what I was referring to is meeting those who are online as well as those who may not be, or at least aren’t online when you meet them. : )

Geocaching is a lot of fun and great for exploring your world. You can start solo or with friends and soon discover a “secret society” of interesting people you might never have otherwise met. The exercise and problem solving are nice bonuses too.

geocaching is amazing!

(@littlekori: Do girls say “hi” more than boys?)

I think @YARNLADY‘s advice to find like-interested people is great. Clubs and social events are enormously helpful because they’re structured socialization—you’re going to an event with the purpose of socializing. Approaching people out of the blue is much more intimidating and sometimes perceived as creepy—much as I wish it weren’t.

For instance, I go dancing. Dancing is a great way to meet people if you are into that and/or willing to learn. But there are plenty of other social events out there as well.

@lapilofu: i think that it depends. It all depends on the type of girl i guess. But i know a lot of girls who are very outgoing and will go up to anyone. my friends and i do it all the time. BUT i think we would rather the guy come up to us.

I’ve met quite a few people through friends sites such as makenewfriends or www.drinkingpartners.com – if you google ‘make friends’ or ‘meet people’ you will see a whole list of them, really you can start to meet up with people within the week if you strike a chord when talking to each other initially. I also frequent the gym almost every night and have made a few good friends there – of both sexes – so I guess the best thing to do is list all the options available to you and incorporate them into your life as soon as poss.

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