Why do people do this - [she] just stopped calling?

I have not done this but I have had it done to me. Never did find out what happened and it tore me apart.

Well it’s only been a day since she made contact. Don’t read too much into it. Perhaps she was busy yesterday.
Just be patient. She may contact you soon. Good luck

I asked this same question a few years ago. Apparently some women do this to avoid confrontation, even thinking they are being “nice.”

But in your case, it sounds like you’re being pretty hasty to interpret it this way. That might be a reason to make someone not have to explain themselves to you. ;-)

How much communication have you given her in this period?

I’ve had women do this to me. In one case, her father was dying and then he did die and it took her a month or two to get back to me. In another case…. who can say? She said we’d talk the next week and I never heard from her again. I have no clue on that one.

As to your case—only time will tell. And even time may keep its lips zipped.

Because people are incapable at communicating, plain and simple and they’re cowardly.

I have had this done to me by men and women friends and it is very painful.

@partyparty Maybe youre right, I could be reading too much into it. If it was something serious, I know I would let that person know however, like “hey I have this thing going on, I need a few days”. Just hate that feeling of there is nothing I can really do but wait.

@Zaku I could be hasty, It just one of those gut feelings. But over the last week we have talked constantly; she and I practically hung out every night Monday – Saturday. But I could see it wanting to be avoiding confrontation; I will definitely have to read the question you had posted.

Speaking as one who has done this in the past, and recognizes it and will admit it and talk about what was behind it, you may get some insight from what I’m about to say—but it won’t make the pain any less.

Four years after I graduated high school I was married, to the first girl I had a really serious relationship with. A year later I was divorced, because of her desire to be out of that marriage. Which in retrospect has been a huge benefit to me. But I mention that because… when I went to my high school class’ fifth reunion (when I did such things) I rekindled a romance with the girl who should have been my first (and would have been if she had had her way). So we started a brief and passionate affair, but she knew that what she was doing for me was mainly therapeutic, because I was still getting over the pain of the divorce and I wasn’t ready for a new commitment.

We had some great times for several weeks. I slept over at her place, and once she came to mine. Before dawn on the morning after she did that, she got up while I was still half-asleep, dressed with hardly a word, and left. I had tried half-heartedly to take her hand and get her to talk before she left, but she pretty much wouldn’t. She asked me not to call her again, and I honored her request.

And while it might seem like she was the one who “left” here, and in fact she was the one who did that with her physical presence, I was the one who had “left” earlier (earlier in the previous couple of weeks, and earlier still, in high school) by not making a commitment to her, or being able to at the moment she left. I think she chose that moment to be “in control” of the moment—and her emotions—and so that I wouldn’t be hanging around her place afterward trying to force something that wasn’t going to be.

She married someone else some time later, and I expect that she’s had a good life since then. So did I. I hope to meet her again—friends only!—next year at our high school class’ 40th reunion.

How did you respond to that last text she sent you? Did you say sure and then she never got back to you or did you tell her no? If you said no, she could be feeling rejected. If you said sure and she just didn’t show up or anything, then maybe something else is going on.

Have you tried to send her any messages since then?

If it’s just been yesterday I wouldn’t read too much into it either. But in case it turns out to be what you fear I’ll be a second voice from the other side altough I’m ashamed to admit I can be. I’ve done this to people [yes, plural…] it’s really hard to explain, but I can tell you and want you to know it’s never about the the other person.

I’ve not done it to someone I was “hanging out with” but I’ve seen it happen to other people and each time it meant the person who did the dropping off had someone else they were angling for. Sounds like her 1st choice plans came through.

Life happens man. It’s really too soon to make any assumptions. Maybe there was a death in the family or she was in an accident. Wouldn’t you feel pretty stupid to find out that she was in a car accident and in the hospital unable to communicate with you. It ain’t all about you man. Sometimes other people have things to deal with. Crips…maybe she dropped her phone in the toilet? You don’t know. It isn’t reasonable or good skills to assume the worst and assume she dropped “it” just like that.

I know this may sound a bit childish, but still relevant i think haha, but she even deleted her facebook, like gone gone. I can’t even find her through mutual friends, and that happened yesterday.

@Seaofclouds Our last communication we had went like this:

her (10/31 10:49 AM): Well wanted to know if u would like to hang out before work pick me up say noonish and I can just finish getting ready at ur house. :) up to you

[I called her after getting this saying sure, but said she needed to go in early and not to worry about it – she said she would call me when she was on her way to work since she was running late. She didn’t call]

Me (10/31 12:54 PM): Do you have any plans for after work?

Me (10/31 5:06 PM): Did you delete me from your facebook?

and then my final text message so far (with no response still):

Me (11/1 9:27 AM): Wow I don’t know what happened to you, I mean if you don’t want to talk to me, alteast just tell me that

Yo Dawg. Don’t freak since some other dude might be stalking her. Your best bet is to not look needy and play it cool like Eazy-E would.

@johnpowell that actually brings up a good point, I haven’t been texting her because she does have an ex that keeps blowing up her phone. That and I dont wanna be that guy that sends like 30 million text messages when someone obviously doesn’t want to talk. I’ll give it a few days to sort of let it ride out, maybe she needs some “alone” time.

Happened to me in the past from both guys and girls. Sometimes, they are busy, but sometimes they just don’t want to be with you anymore for whatever reason. Used to be a bit hung up on this but my Fluther friends have since shown me that the best way to deal with this is just to move on and make new friends.

Read this:
http://ezinearticles.com/?My-Girlfriend-Stopped-Calling-Me---What-Should-I-Do?&id=3084271
Don’t thank me, I had the same problem. Good luck bro ^^