Do similarities attract?

We both loved to dance.
There are things we were not in agreement over but we are both open minded to a strong argument that makes its case well. So over the years we have changed our minds on several topic. And as for the things we cannot agree on, we just agree to respect each others view.

We have very similar tastes in music (his is a little broader than mine).

We have the same energy level.

We both love books and reading.

We have the same core ethical and moral values.

We both love to travel.

We both love road trips.

We share the same sense of humor.

There are probably lots of others too.

My husband and I have a lot in common. What originally attracted me to him was his kindness and his smile. We bonded over playing Uno, Talisman, and a few other games. We both like those games and other similar games. We like the same music for the most part. We have similar beliefs on most issues and both have similar desires for what we would like in the long term.

There are probably lots of other things too that I’m just not thinking about right now. I still believe that opposites can attract two people to get together, even though that wasn’t the case for us.

Similarities and opposites attract, it all depends. Alex and I had little in common (interest-wise) but we were both into each other intellectually and were both interested in pursuing a relationship with someone without bs of mind games – we both wanted to be challenged and were both pretty open-minded.

In my experiences then similarities attracted more intensely and had the best results for long lasting relationships.

What attracted you to your partner?
He appeared dynamic, capable, responsible, respectful and intelligent. He was also physically attractive and became more so in my eyes over the months I observed him (at work).

How are they like you?
We both believe in Fidelity, Monogamy, Family Responsibility, excelling at work.
We share musical tastes and both enjoy to go to live concerts/venues.
We both share the love of fine food as a treat, we both appreciate the dining experience even if it’s at home.
We both enjoy to be out in nature as long as we’re comfortable and safe.
We both enjoy movies, reading, playing cards, target shooting, cars, salon pampering, road trips, sailing, swimming, the snow.
We both share similar education which includes how our parents raised us and the fact we were each raised as only children.
We both left home early and we both share similar college experiences.
We are one only day apart in our birthdays but nearly a decade apart in birth dates.

I don’t believe that ‘opposites’ attract. People clearly need things in common to get along. My girlfriend and I are both young, and like doing the same things. She is interested in learning just like I am. We’re going to see an exhibition on the human body and how its parts work next month. I couldn’t find that desire for knowledge in other women I’ve met.

It differs between people. Some people get along better with opposites and some like the same.

Yes, probably more often than not.

The initial attraction for both of us was that we are both blunt and truthful—even brutally so sometimes. That’s a similarity. We are opposites regarding Faith issues and politics. It’s interesting.

I met my husband at a mutual friends wedding. I had been at some of the same parties and events as him, but never met until the wedding. When I went to the church for the wedding I sat in a pew with some people that all looked college age. I didn’t know any of the people, they just looked about my age. He alone of all of us got up and took communion. All of the rest of us, about 7 or 8 more just sat there, I think giving up to peer pressure more than anything else. I had been raised Catholic and was taught that you don’t receive communion unless you share the faith of the church. He, alone of all of us. The only one. When I saw that I told my friends that I wanted to meet someone that believed that strongly. Standing up to the peer pressure, alone of the entire pew of people, almost all of whom are the same age. I really wanted to meet someone like that.
He also, as a computer engineer, is much more logical than I am, better at math. Those are the major ways we differ. We are more similar than I would have admitted at first.

I think similarities attract and make it easier to stay together for the long haul. My mate and I share most interests, some of his would be considered girly and most of mine, blokey. But when you mix them all together and spread them between the two of us, it makes for experiences that we both seek and enjoy.