Is there a proper way to go about asking this young man if he wants to continue our friendship?

Just send him the message saying hi. He’ll want to stay in touch and/or hang out, or he won’t.

I agree with @Blackberry, I think. Just send him a private e-mail letting him know that you still recall his existence and appreciate it independently. Do not post it on his wall.

Yeah, be very casual about it. Just kind of a “hey there, how’ve you been?” He will then friend you and answer your message or ignore you.

Nothing wrong with reaching out to an old friend or aquaintance. I do it all the time if the opportunity presents itself. You can never have too many friends. And if it becomes something special, so much the better.

Be honest and casual. There have been a few I’ve reached out to on social networks with “Hey! I always thought you were cool and I’ve thought of you. Weren’t those some crazy times?”

It works or it doesn’t. Sometimes I’m ignored, sometimes I’m “friended” but it goes no further and once in a while, I get some great conversations with an old friend.

What worries me about this particular old friend is that he never heard my side of the story. The guy I was involved with and I had an acrimonious split, to say the least, and whatever version he was telling people made me out to be quite the heartless bitch a lot of it was bald-faced lies which is why I worry that this young man will want nothing to do with me.

I think I’ll just go for it and see what happens. Thanks for answering everyone. At the very least, it’s comforting to know that a bunch of people who have never met me care enough to want me to be able to reconnect with an old friend. :)

Good luck! A few years perspective can make a lot of difference.

I would just send a friendly message and see what happens:)

Good luck, please do keep us posted.

I sent the message a few minutes ago. Let’s see what happens.

Is it weird that I’m nervous?

@KatawaGrey What’s weirder is that I’m nervous for you. Let us know.

Yes, @KatawaGrey We’re all invested in this now :)

Say hi, tell him you miss that the two of you didn’t keep up the friendship after “the thing” and ask him to drop you a line.

Unless you know for a fact, I wouldn’t assume that this guy cut you off because he believed a story about you told by Jerk Boy. Anyone with a lick of sense knows that there are always two sides of the story when it comes to broken relationships. Sometimes, loyalty to one friend over another wins out after a break-up.

And no, silly; it isn’t weird that you are anxiously waiting to see if he responds. It is human nature. He’ll either respond favorably, respond negatively, or not respond. If he shoots back some negative response, it may sting, but it should be considered a valuable insight into his personality. If he doesn’t respond, don’t take it personally; you don’t know why. Some people just don’t check their account on a regular basis.

In the meantime, focus on the fact that we adore you. And right now, we are the ones that count. :)

You need to call me later and tell me who! I’m dying of curiosity, here! Or did you tell me and I forgot? Oh, dear.

No response yet but I suspect he’s seen it because there is some activity on his fb from today. Hopefully, more details to follow…

Thanks for the update. Did you call your mom and let her in on the specifics?

@Pied_Pfeffer : Yes, she did. :-)

Just thought I ought to let you all know that he hasn’t responded. :(

Oh, that’s a shame. Maybe he’s mulling it over?

Still no response. The body’s cold. :(

It’s three months later. Any update for us?

He never responded. I’m just going to let things lie. Oh well.

Thanks for the update. Oh well…his loss.