Do you think a mother should apologize to her daughter for calling her a bitch?

It depends on the situation. Of course the mother should apologize if it was not warranted, and that happens at times.

Of course she should apologize to her daughter.

A mother should never call her daughter that in the first place. It’s hard to say anything more because it appears you have a very specific situation in mind and you’re looking for something more than simple validation. So yes, I agree that was hurtful and she should apologize. What else would you like to know?

No mother should call her daughter a bitch.

lol, my mom and I use to call each other a bitch, but it was only when we were each acting like one.

Calling her daughter or anyone a bitch for the reasons you listed doesn’t make any sense. Why would you call someone a bitch for forgetting the house keys or losing an item that’s for school? That’s a dumbass, not a bitch. XD
I kid. I kid. She should definitely apologize. Shit like that is hurtful and damaging to her self-esteem – it always hurts worse when you hear stuff like that from someone you’re close with.
From your description, she sounds like an unempathetic, unfit mother who clearly doesn’t care about anyone else’s feelings but her own.

When my oldest turned 14 or 15, I used to tell her to “un-bitch”.

I would never call my mom a bitch, I deserve the same respect. Yes, she should apologize.

A mother should realize that she’s modeling how to handle anger to her daughter. Apologizing is a great way to show that it’s okay to make mistakes, and that the relationship is important enough to make ammends.

some words are toxic to a relationship between family members. I believe bitch is one of them when used the way you’ve described.

Name calling of this nature is listed on domestic violence charts as low level violence…namely verbal abuse. Yes the mother should apologize to her daughter. There is no excuse for this kind of behavior.

“bitchy” is ok “bitch” is not.

When family members start using “third degree” name-calling, it is a sign that there is something not right in the relationship. No family member should use horrible words like “bitch” or “m*therf*cker” against another. It’s ugly enough using it on strangers, but among close kin? Emotions may run high in domestic situations, but to attack one another with such words really crosses the line. When that happens, people should take a step back and analyze “why” they are using such terminology. Obviously, the bond and the loyalty are not there.

Yes. I know people who are still upset by this decades later.

There is always the mom’s side of the story to hear before we reach for out bag of stones….

Nice mother…

I don’t think a mother should even call her daughter that to begin with no matter what the situation. Thats verbal abuse as someone else has stated.

<sigh> This is… a tough question.

No it’s not okay for her to say it and she should apologize.

BUT, as someone who has been in almost this exact situation, I can tell you it isn’t the worst thing in the world. My mother is an exceptionally frustrating person when she is upset. She argues over the stupidest things and says some terribly mean things. Things that can cut pretty deeply. I’ve been kicked out of my home for deciding to live in the dorms instead of at home with my parents. I mean… it’s just a defense mechanism on her part. At other times, she’ll be angry at something completely unrelated to me or my sister and will take her anger out on us through words anyway.

This is only really painful during those moments (and when I was a teenager). When I was a teenager, I got angry back and it didn’t help the situation. Now, I speak to her calmly and point out that she’s being wrong or walk away. She eventually calms down and explains whatever was on her mind. And sometimes apologizes, but not often. It’s implied a lot of the time.

a) your mother’s actions do not justify “finding love in other places.” As was brought up in another question of yours, it’s your body and doing things that will hurt it only hurt you, not your mother. Going to a boyfriend for comfort is not the same as sex with a number of men.
b) You need to learn to control your response to your mother. Yes it hurts like a bitch when she says terrible things to you. But you need to keep your eye on whatever future you want for yourself. Allowing these things to pull you down at such an early age will only mess up everything.

While there are situations where a mother really is just a piece of trash parent, I recommend forgiving your mother until you’re 20. The age difference will affect both of you. Hopefully for the better.

@Iclamae that’s why I said that some girls would try to find love in the wrong places. I wasn’t applying this for myself.I know better(I don’t believe being with a male in a relationship anyway,I don’t believe in that love stuff at all). I understand what you’re saying though.

I think it depends on the power you give the word and the context in which it is said.
My daughter and I will jest with each other and call each other bitch. But we both know we don’t mean it or ever use it in anger. Now in times of arguements I am sure she may want to use the word or and probably uses it in her mind but I don’t care so long as she keeps her composure and doesn’t decide to get disrespectful.
I do the same when angry with her.
I don’t think it is the word that hurts as much as the intent of hurt behind any word that really matters.
That being said, I think people submit to others when they allow words to be used like hammers over them.
I grew up in the city and in not a very nice neighborhood. I remember guys trying to rap with me calling me all kinds of names because I wouldn’t give them the time of day.
I would probably be rich if I got a dime for everytime they called me a name. Nothing fustrated them more than to see me smile and walk away without a word. Their fustration would grow more because I wasn’t allowing their words to destroy my day or make me feel I was any less a person because they said I was.
My point is, sometimes you will not get the validation you seek from other people and sometimes that may even be a parent. But so long as you can walk away with your head held high and with dignity, the other person knows they are wrong.
Once in a while I would actually get a guy who would appologize because he realized he was behaving in a very inmature way and appreciated that I did not reduce myself to his level.
In time she may realize she needs to grow up.

Name calling is common in some families. I don’t know the family dynamics so I can’t answer this. Personally I hate name calling of any kind, and the word bitch is never uttered in my house.

@ladyv900 Sorry about that. I’m glad I was wrong.

Name calling is a childish way of handling anger and sets a terrible example for the daughter, as well as hurting her feelings. Tell me who benefits from anyone calling someone a bitch, let alone a mother and daughter. A parent should think about resolving problems rather than slamming the door on any possibility of a positive result.

yes yes yes

Yes! She needs to say she’s sorry! And sound sincere about it.

She shouldn’t call her daughter that. Otoh, I can see how some daughters act bitchy to their moms.

No matter how the daughter is behaving, her mother should not call her a bitch. There are more constructive ways to deal with anger than through name-calling. The mother should apologize.