Cleavage : Am I supposed to look or not?

Your eyes are yours; you can do whatever you want with them. If you are challenged, be nice and charming while explaining that you’re a human male. What else would the cleavage bearer expect.

If a woman is showing cleavage I think she expects you to look, and any woman who denies that is flat out lying!

@JustJessica That’s encouraging. :-)

Yes. ;-)

Look wether she want’s you to or not. If she doesn’t wan’t you to look then she should cover them up. She wants attention but she doesn’t get to decide who gets to look.

It’s a trap! Boobage is the bait.

Yeah, this is where the penis acts as a remote control for the eyes. We really have no say in the matter. Which suits me fine :¬)

She has it on display for a certain kind of man – not anyone if you know what I mean. But the man she wants to look probably wouldn’t.

Look, but not if you are face-to-face with her, talking to her. Don’t be looking at her chest!

I would think a person (regardless of gender) would be respectful enough not to stare and ogle at a woman’s cleavage. Some women prefer to show theirs because it feels good to them, and it has nothing to do with wanting attention. It’s understandable, though, to glance at cleavage – because let’s face it, breasts are attractive and they attract!

Men, how would you feel if someone (regardless of gender) stared and ogled at your groin? Some men wear tight pants or uniquely shaped underwear, accentuating their “package.” Some men are just built to protrude, and it’s simply not their fault for having a defined “package.” Should people (regardless of gender) stare, too? After all, some say it’s only hormones that causes men to stare at cleavage – we are, after all, only animal human.

For spite, I try not to look – unless she’s Power Girl .

I agree with @JustJessica

You are supposed to do what I do: stare.

I think you should be polite and introduce yourself.

@AstroChuck – I respectfully disagree. I think it’s impolite to stare at anyone, for any reason. No one is supposed to stare. This said, I am a person who sometimes gets stuck staring at someone because I am lost in thought or because I want to take in the visual information. Getting stuck on staring is my issue, not the target’s issue. Anyone who stares at cleavage (or at whatever in whomever) has an issue. I think it’s a lack of self-control and being inconsiderate of the other person.

Women should be allowed to dress however makes them feel comfortable, and it irks me that there’s a double standard of modesty between men and woman regarding the chest area. Men can get away with more exposure, especially in certain situations allowing for shirtless attire. Women cannot, and should not have to worry about men who stare at goats breasts. Sure, there are some women who desire attention. But, in general, men do not know which ones do and which ones don’t. So, I think men (and women) should be polite and not stare!

Look, but don’t linger. In conversation, look at my face.

Just don’t grab them and say “Nice rack.”

@Blackberry Word.

Yes…that is the whole reason for exposed cleavage is to make the woman look and feel attractive, voluptuous and desirable and it is your civic duty to oblige by looking and even offer a thumbs up and or a wink!

it might depend on who you are out with at that time, if you know what I mean. There may me some universal amount of exposed cleavage that will express whether it is an innocent/nice smallish cleavage or one that has them all out there screaming at you, at….all of us. Women with the latter kind are expecting us to look, it’s their little head game they are playing as they are getting dressed that day. They don’t have the right to be offended by the lookers, sorry.

I’d like to know what people consider the dividing line between “having a look” and “staring” is.

Having a look is acceptable, Staring borders on creepy though. Or just use your phone/camera and you can look anytime you want…in case she says “take a picture it’ll last longer”.

@FutureMemory I’d say “having a look” would be just like having a look at anything else that catches your eye but doesn’t make you want to stare. Like, “Oh, pretty picture. Now I’ll go on about my day.”, rather than “That’s the most beautiful painting I’ve ever seen! I could lose myself in it for hours.” ;)

Half a second? Three seconds? What length of time is OK, and what length is too long?

by looking for a little longer than a fleeting glance is the same as saying “hey nice tits” You don’t need to plunge your face into them, and you shouldn’t.

Look openly, but don’t stare. Smile appreciatively and gratefully. Keep your hands in your pockets.

And for christ’s sake don’t say a word to your wife.