Arguments between firstborn daughters and mothers?

Coincidence and possibly also has to do with both being similar in family dynamics. I argue more with my mother than my sister and she is firstborn. I am the youngest. I think it has more to do with who seems to be most like their parent. My mom is also the youngest. However her and her mom got along very well.

Firstborns and onlies tend towards taking on leadership personalities.

My mother was an only and we clashed, I was an only child and my daughter is an only as well and we have had our moments.

We are both bright, strong, extroverted and creative types….mirror, mirror! lol

My daughter and I get along well but we had our struggles during her teens. ( She will be 23 in a week )

Now we enjoy a relationship of equals and learn from each other, but there was a few years, oh yes, where we both walked on eggshells a LOT! hahaha

There often appear to be patterns in the fights between family members.

The pattern is that families fight more often than most people due to being shoved in each others face. Other than that it’s just coincidence.

I’m first born and I would not say I argue constantly with my mom. My family tends to be loud in general, but I don’t feel at war with my mom in any way. If anything I tend to do whatever she tells me. Not that she is too controlling, she does not ask me to do much, or anything ridiculous. All I am getting at is I never felt like I had to spite her or be contrary.

I’m a middle child and first born daughter. I don’t argue with my Mom or anyone for that matter. But then I don’t live with family either. My sister on the other hand still lives with my Mom and they argue often. Even when Pops was living, they argued often. I think it has a lot to do with a person’s disposition.

When I was growing up, all the arguing was between the youngest daughter and Dad. In my own family, I raised two sons 16 years apart, and they both argued with both Dad and I, but it was very rarely.