What does i love you but i dont want to marry you mean?

“I’m afraid of commitment”? I don’t really know. A better understanding of the exact situation regarding the comment would help to give you a more informed answer.

What are the terms of your relationship?

I’m gonna guess, let’s be friends or you’d make a horrible parent for my children. Just a guess though.

Ehhh, it seems like they aren’t comfortable with having you as a spouse? You can’t really tell though, it can mean a number of things.

They are probably just scared. Marriage is a big deal. Maybe they see something wrong with the relationship that you don’t see.

They are telling you straight up that they do not want to marry you at this point and time .

I think it means they dont want a real commitment they just want to play around

they probably love you they’re just not in love with you.

it means “im keeping my options open”.

or why mess with a good thing?

Life partners without the piece of paper or making it official.

@ninjaxmarc; i think if he or she rather be life partners without making it official means they love them, just only waiting to see if anyone else better comes along.

oops. Multiple posts.

Thats what I’m getting as well. Well said lovelyy and syntak.

who’s balking at marriage , male or female. There are two completely different mindsets when it comes to the big M .

@pattyb; i think it’s the male not wanting to get married, because the question was asked by “love408” but i’m curious to know the difference.

@lovelyy, Women have a genuine fear of never getting married, not having children, and for lack of a better term, becoming a “spinster”. That same fear is not felt by men ( ok most men). I can think of all the unmarried women in their 40’s and above (friends, relatives, co-workers, etc.) They are unmarried not by choice, but because no one has ever asked them to marry them. Most of the unmarried men I know are unmarried by choice or for whatever personal reason, have not “popped the question”. Also how many endless complaints have you heard from women about how their partner “won’t commit”. So if a woman is not committing, one would have to think that there are more underlying problems in the relationship. Kind of a double standard.

@lovelyy

I agree.

There is a difference between being in love with someone and loving them as a person. Usually with life partners marriage is not an option and the leaving that option open sometimes hurts the people involved sometimes its not just that paper but making it official

Ok, here’s some data, but all from just me.
I’ve said this quite a few times over the years.
I always meant what I said, but I think you’re asking why.

That is, it always really literally meant:
“I feel serious love (well-wishing + romance) for you but I don’t currently feel like I want to be married to you”

Related feelings in different cases (not all at once) were also:
“we’re not getting along well enough for me to consider marrying you”
“we don’t have all that I want in a love relationship”
“I see I might not always want to be your lover”
“I’m with you now, but I keep thinking of other potential lovers”
“I feel love for you but I don’t feel like I want to spend the rest of my life with you”
“your ideas about marriage are not close enough to mine”

When I was too young to be married, I said it because:
“I’m too young to be married”
“I’m afraid of commitment”
“I’m scared”

Some related feelings I had sometimes that others guessed:
Randy: “let’s be friends”
Randy: “you’d make a horrible parent for my children”
amandaafoote: “I’m not comfortable with having you as a spouse”
skgskgskq22: “I see something wrong with the relationship that you don’t see”
mzgator: “do not want to marry you at this point and time”
Lee_27: “I don’t want a real commitment I just want to play around” (this when I was about 18)

I/it NEVER meant, but I can imagine other people might:
“Life partners without the piece of paper or making it official”
“just only waiting to see if anyone else better comes along”

Given your other questions, I suspect it means “The relationship is over, and I’m hoping you’ll go away, but I don’t want to say that in so many words, and I like you enough to want to keep you as a friend.”

it means that he loves you because everyone loves. we love our friends, siblings etc. he loves you, probably just not in a way that would want him to marry you. i know that it hurts to hear that. the possibility that he’s scared exists but if he were he wouldnt be so “blunt” with what he said. people who are scared of commitment also usually shy away from admission of feelings.