So I'm about to go on a job interview, but I'm having a breakdown, suggestions?

Slap yourself in the face. Really… It works.

Meditate or medicate.

Deep breathing, affirmations, coach yourself on leaving your “shit” in the car. Xanax if you have tried it before succesfully.

I’d take the oppurtunity to see this as the start of your recovery if I was you….but i’m not you, why am I talking to myself now?

Hmm. Alright – I don’t know if this will help…it may make things worse…but just in case…

Are you going to let her win? If you miss this opportunity because of her, she’s controlling your life. Don’t let her do that. You getting your dream job where she lives just means that you are the one in control.

Write it all ( the shit that is…. ) on a piece of paper and leave it behind when you go to the interview. That’s where it belongs.

I don’t know if this can help or not; it’s something that wasn’t available to me either as advice or the “real life” experience of anyone I knew when my heart was first broken 35 years ago. (I lived with the girl for 6 months, then we had 6 months of what I thought was a good marriage… and then she just left without explanation.)

My ex-wife is semi-famous now, but not ‘notorious’ or anything like that. But she is nothing like the girl who dumped me. I thank my stars that she left, because what I thought at the time was “a good marriage” was anything but. She was psycho, controlling and manipulative… and you’ve already seen how she broke my heart without a backward glance—and then decided to live in the apartment downstairs from me—with her new boyfriend.

So here’s the advice: imagine this girl as she’ll look in 30 years or so. She will have lost her looks and most of her ‘charm’ ... and you’ve dodged all of that. (There are plenty of women who will not have lost their charm with the passage of years—you see them all around you right here. In fact their charm increases daily, it seems.) The girl who left you crying isn’t one of them.

You’re now rebooting your emotional life, and that takes some time, I know. A human Operating System takes longer than 5 minutes to boot. So just operate in ‘safe mode’ for the rest of the day. Don’t overstimulate, just do what you have to and you can get through it okay.

Ok, this is going to sound so simplistic and stupid, but it really helped me get me through a tough time. Take a piece of paper and write “It will all be OK” all over it. Different colors, sizes, directions, whatever. Stare at it when you feel like it is all too much. The thing is, it all really will be ok but it is so hard to remember that, and believe it, when you’re in the middle of a crisis.

The question went up 11 hours ago, so by now the interview must be over. I really hope it went well! You’ll get over her in time.

When you’re interviewing for your dream job, I think that the nerves can actually work to your advantage. If you really want it, you’ll prepare better and put more thought and effort into your answers.

Well I just got back a few minutes ago. The interview went well, I guess. I’m not really sure I suppose but I focused long enough for it.

The car ride home on the other hand…....

I hope the interview was a success and opens the door to a new, happier, future for you.