What is a polite way to tell someone they talk too much?

If she just started, she might be nervous and talking more because of that. I’d just tell her that your Mom likes things fairly quiet and is not very talkative. That too much talking makes her uncomfortable, tires her out, overstimulates her, etc. Make your comments about your Mom and her preferences and needs, rather than about the caregiver’s behavior. That will make the point without her feeling like you are criticizing her personally. There are ways to say “My Mom doesn’t like a lot of talking” without saying “You talk too much and it bugs my Mom.”

Is she hired in as private duty, or through a company?
If it is through an agency you can just call them up and request someone new, and don’t hesitate to tell them why.
If it is private duty… I can’t think of a polite way to tell someone. The truth is that this woman is there to take care of your mother, and this is a job. I agree with @diavolobella in that she may just be feeling her way around, she may be nervous, could be a number of things. You could wait and see if it levels out. If not, you may just have to have a word with her. (Again, as @diavolobella said… say something about your mother’s preferences, rather than telling her she needs to shut her yap.)

Gee sweetie, you can talk the hind leg off a donkey!

@ZEPHYRA‘s idea made me laugh out loud, but I agree with @diavolobella, you could point out that your mom prefers quiet when she is helped through her medical routines.

there is no way to tell her without hurting her feelings. It will hurt her feelings and hurt them badly.

I agree with asking for a switch. If talking a lot is her basic personality, she is not going to be able to change it.

For your Mom’s sake, do it.

@chyna my only concern is that if this woman is good with your mom and you have no issues with the way she helps your mom, it is probably worth keeping her around. I do know that it is hard to find at home nursing care that is the highest quality and hard to keep the best people. As @diavolobella mentioned, she might be nervous because of the new assignment and is trying to make you all more comfortable with her. If you are happy with her care, before you cut her loose for something like this is, it is probably worth trying to speak to her her.

I would reccommend taking her aside and giving her the mom needs more quiet message. Just be polite and make sure she understands it’s just part of mom’s care that she needs her peace and quiet. If it’s getting on your mom’s nerves it’s going to be one more stressor and she doesn’t need that.

This is a private pay caregiver so there is no agency. It took me 3 weeks to find her and I think she does a good job so far and didn’t want to lose her. I love @ZEPHYRA‘s answer, but probably can’t use it.
I think @diavolobella has a good idea. I’ll try that.

Find a copy of Joe Jones song…..You Talk Too Much and leave it on the windshield of her automobile. its on Youtube and you can download it to make a copy.

There is no nice way. Usually people who talk alot can’t help it just like a person that prefers not to say much can’t help it. I think you would either tick her off or hurt her feelings.

I’ve been up against this problem recently….and the person who talks too much may be almost pathological about it. I mean, to the point where they almost can’t help it. If you can switch, do so.

I would not switch caregivers without at least trying what I suggested. It might work and it would be a shame to cost this woman her job without at least giving her the chance to remedy the problem.

This is why I don’t talk to people. It annoys them.

when you talk too much,makes one do wrongly.You can stylishly keep her shut when she talks at duty.

Interrupt. Sorry, I don’t understand. And again, if necessary. Sorry, I still don’t understand. Keep irritating the other person till he or she gets it.