Why not ask a friend or loved one to write a pre-death obituary for you?

Why not write it yourself?

That is too egotistical.

feeling the need to be stroked?

I could write about myself after I died. It’s old news.

It’s not for me.I’m not crazy about limericks,besides,once I’m gone,I’m gone :)

True. However, before you’re gone, you’re not gone.

@gailcalled -XD I am lucky to know some very direct people and am aware most of the time where I stand with them and what they think of me.good or bad

I agree with @CyanoticWasp. Write it yourself and tell people those are the things they should mention in addition to whatever else they wanted to say.

But why do this? I know the NYT and other news organizations have pre-written obits for important people in case the person dies. They have to update them from time to time.

I know that our loved ones have a lot of stuff to do when we die, and writing an obit is not one of the things they want to do then. Besides which, you don’t know if you need 2 column inches or 20.

Another thing you could do is set up a web page for memories of yourself or someone else. They could be private web pages that go public upon death.

I suppose you could…I feel like my friends and those I love will do just fine though, in their own way.

I already wrote my own, so I don’t need anyone else to help.

Would you be tempted to edit it or at least ask for revisions?

I’m not a fan of obituaries. The ones that aren’t pathetically formulaic are at best insincere. Obviously no one wants to speak ill of the dead, but by reading the obit page you’d think every person who’d ever died was a freaking saint.

I’d much rather right my own, just to give a final goodbye, put some things in perspective, and get the last word in.

I guess I would be afraid that it wouldn’t be the truth. They’re only going to say flattering things about you which isn’t really the way that people truthfully see you – they see both the good and the bad.

@all: STOP THE PRESSES. I must have had a senior moment. I wrote “obit” when I meant “eulogy”. You are all correct.