(NSFW) Do you think bisexual people are likely to be particularly good in bed?
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November 13th, 2010
Before answering, try to set aside any moralistic feelings, and any concern about fidelity and the fact that bisexuals have twice as many potential lovers to stray with compared with those who are exclusively straight or gay. Just looking at how sexy they know how to be—does their knowledge of what both men and women love make them more adaptive, more passionate, more creative overs.
Guesses are fine, but I’d really welcome feedback from Jellies who have sampled both a bi lover and one exclusively dedicated to one gender for romantic relationships. How did the two types stack up.—if you will forgive the pun?
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Pun? DId you mean “shack up”?
Subjective. In my experience the sex becomes mind bogglingly better the longer one stays with a partner. The orientation has little to do with the phrase “good in bed”. I find the phrase particularly abhorrent, by the way.
Either one is a considerate lover or not. I don’t think multiple genders will affect that.
Naw. I don’t think it matters what your orientation is. Love making skill depends on sensitivity and creativity, and love and lots of things, including experience. But it doesn’t matter who the experience is with. The skills are transferable between anatomies.
@wundayatta: Do you mean in the context being discussed here, “transferable among anatomies?”
Not necessarily. I bet there is as more variation in sexual prowess or knowledge within groups than between groups, when it comes to this. So, just being bisexual wouldn’t necessarily make you better in bed than not being bisexual. A clueless bisexual isn’t any better a sexual partner than a clueless heterosexual or a clueless homosexual, I wouldn’t think. I’m no expert though.
No, it might imply just the opposite. A singular partner that you connect with IMO is by far the best way to experience the intense passion of true love that is celebrated by the intimacy of love making.
@gailcalled No, Stack up was what I meant. The moment I wrote it, I got a mental picture of a stack of men and women intermingled in who knows what pairings.
@Trillian I understand. What might qualify as GID for one person would be a complete turn off for another. It is an incredibly subjective judgment.
@syz Selfishness in lovemaking is a turnoff no matter what the orientation of the lover.
@wundayatta Perhaps. I can think of areas where anatomical knowledge might not transfer so easily.
@Cruiser. The OP asked to set the love part of it aside, but I can easily see how that’s hard to apply. It is so much of the experience.
“bisexuals have twice as many potential lovers to stray with”
More like 5–10 % more potential lovers to stray with. It’s hard to find exact numbers on people attracted to the same sex, but most people are straight. So for someone like me, a bisexual woman, it actually isn’t that easy to meet other interested women.
Back to the original question- I don’t know if being bisexual makes you better in bed, but most of the bi people I know are really comfortable with discussing sex. They’ll be totally open and candid with you.
@ETpro Forgive my ignorance to the matter but my answer is testament as to how strongly I feel about singular partner love making….IMO anything else is voyeuristic masturbation.
@Haleth Um. That’s a good point. They are less likely to be sexually repressed. If they were, they would not act on their bisexual urges.
@Cruiser So noted. Personally, I have been with the same woman now for 35 years. The question was strictly academic. I’m not planning any dalliances.
I would view someone who was “bisexual” to be better in bed than I, mostly just because they would know more about both genders- whereas I only know about 1 gender. I think they might be more aware of their own selves as well….possibly. Depends on the person I spose…as usual…..
I’m bisexual but I don’t consider myself particularly good in bed at all. There are too many things I can’t bring myself to do.
I wouldn’t think that a bisexual lover would be any better in bed than a hetero/homosexual lover who is experienced and comfortable with his/her own body.
Just because someone has been with both sexes doesn’t mean that they can please them better than someone who sticks to one sex.
A person of either sex, hetero/homo/bisexual or whatever, who knows what pleasures them most and is comfortable talking openly about sex with their partner… in my opinion, that person is “better” in bed than someone who is too shy to ask for what they want or to ask their partner what they would like.
@Seelix There is something to be said for specialization.
What do you have to do to be a good lover for a man? A blow job is the only necessary requirement.
@faye I can tell you this from direct experience. There are blow jobs and then there are blow jobs!
“What do you have to do to be a good lover for a man? A blow job is the only necessary requirement.”
WRONG! Thank you for playing anyway!
Okay, but I’m right. I would so much rather be wrong.
@faye I don’t even enjoy blow jobs from a lover who doesn’t truly delight in giving them. They are most certainly not the be all and end all of sexual satisfaction for this man.
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Orientation has nothing to do with how good a person is in bed. Same thing with the amount of people someone sleeps with. If a person isn’t getting the right type of feedback from any of their partners they can go on having terrible sex with either gender for a long time and never get better.
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