At my university we have shirts of various colors that bear the words ‘gay? fine by me.’ Lots of people wear them. I like them primarily because a) they are understated, b) they are declarative (it’s fine by me) and, especially, c) they are interrogative, asking the viewer of the shirt about his/ her own orientation and, following that, implicitly asking the viewer whether being gay is fine by him/ her also. I think such an interrogation is immensely important, and good at prompting people to think on their own about gay rights so they can come to the right conclusion by themselves. Nothing is forced.
I prefer them to what you linked to. What you linked to seems kind of obnoxious, possibly a little self-defeating. Tons of (allegedly) straight people wear the ‘fine by me’ shirts around campus, but I am certain that many of them would be unwilling to wear something that says ‘Some dudes marry dudes’ or ‘FCKH8’ in huge, pink typeface. Is that the shirt’s problem or the person’s problem? Probably the latter’s.
Nevertheless I’ve noticed there are people who hop on the bandwagon, who are perhaps a little too loud* in their expression of pro-gay rights sentiment, who are in it to have something to shout about. Young people often get caught up in the protest, I think, because it’s exciting to be a part of something important like this. It’s even more exciting to be able to defy authority by wearing a shirt that is rebellious in several ways, e.g. by being both profane (FCKH8) and a form of antiestablishmentarianism, by being anomalously pink, whatever. And, conveniently, it’s trendy to be ‘political’ or progressive.
*Not that pro-gay rights sentiment can be ‘too loud’ in the sense that it’s trying too hard (it’s an important issue and any form of support, loud of quiet, is commendable), but ‘too loud’ in the sense that it becomes self-defeating. The last thing I want to see is a movement quashed under the weight it’s prescribed itself.
Like @Sarcasm, I’m kind of amused and saddened by the ‘Some chicks/ dudes marry chicks/ dudes shirt’ because I don’t live in a state where that’s possible. It makes me feel as though the creators of the shirt – and the wearer – are a little ignorant of the political and legal implications of the current gay rights movement and have, instead, just kind of jejunely perceived it as a strictly social issue that can be remedied by the aggressive and occasionally offensive deployment of platitudes like fuck hate. Fuck hate? Well, of course fuck hate! No one is going to say, ‘Well, hate’s not so bad….’ The slogan’s message doesn’t really mean anything. There’s a chance a shirt like yours will reveal to the hateful that what they feel towards homosexuals is, in fact, hate, but it’s more likely to be simply glossed over by those not already supporting the cause. In this sense the shirt is kind of masturbatory and doesn’t really do or express anything important.
Of course I’m speaking mostly of the text, here, obviously, but visually the shirt is as necessary and good and important as any other form of support for gay (or more broadly: civil) rights. Visibility is everything, really. The support and the visibility probably even preclude the naiveté of the message. I am happy to see any form of support, especially from straight people who don’t have quite as much of a stake in the outcome as queer people do. I just really want those straight people (or those young people) to be participating for the right reasons and to be educated on the topic and to recognize that protesting is not a party. These issues are extremely significant and should not be a prop for self-righteous behavior.