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JustJessica's avatar

What makes someone sexy?

Asked by JustJessica (4054points) November 15th, 2010

Is it the way they dress? Perhaps the look in their eyes? What makes a person sexy to you?

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Mikewlf337's avatar

eyes, hair, personality, feet. I notice feet more than most people lol

Neizvestnaya's avatar

Intelligence
Vitality
Confidence (not arrogance)
Quieter rather than louder
Competence
Talent
Good posture
Health
Great hygeine

HungryGuy's avatar

[NSFW] For a woman: not having a gag reflex :-p

chyna's avatar

A toss of the head, the curve of their jawline, a look, a secret smile, the way a shadow falls across their face, the way their hair falls across their forehead. This and much more.

Smashley's avatar

A filthy mouth, small enough that I could throw you around the room and restrain you with a single arm, and eyes that say “throw me around the room and restrain me with a single arm.”

JustJessica's avatar

@Smashley big girls have those same looks, it just takes a bigger man to throw one around the room. @chyna Love your answer. @HungryGuy lol I love your honesty(You must think I’m sexy)! I totally agree with the hygiene and confidence.

Blackberry's avatar

Personality, intelligence, and big butts and breasts.

Jude's avatar

Confidence (not arrogance).

@N. I didn’t read any of the other responses (yours) before I typed mine. Ha!

JustJessica's avatar

@Blackberry Yea the Big butt and big breast thing gets em’ every time!

lucillelucillelucille's avatar

Confidence.
That is what it has always been about for me. :)

Vunessuh's avatar

A really strong jawline.
Perhaps a few tattoos.
I look at hands a lot. I like nice hands and nails.
Intelligence and confidence.
Having passion and ambition and goals.
No fear.
Dominance, especially in the bedroom, turns me on. Someone to take control and maybe smack me around a bit when I get mouthy. XD

HungryGuy's avatar

[NSFW] @Vunessuh – If you’re tied down with a ring gag in your mouth, you won’t need to be smacked around :-p

Vunessuh's avatar

They can smack me around with a spatula. How bout that? XD

Jude's avatar

Ahem. I like where this mini convo is going

lucillelucillelucille's avatar

Nothing inspires more confidence than a swift spatula upside the head. ;)

Brian1946's avatar

I’m with Smashley on the filthy mouth part, but I prefer women that are big and strong enough to throw me around the bedroom. ;-)

Neizvestnaya's avatar

To be able to laugh and be a good sport about wearing the snap-on Tigger ears and paddling with a wooden spatula, that too.

JustJessica's avatar

Okay I’m new here, someone will have to fill me in on the spatula thing… Pretty please.

Mikewlf337's avatar

@JustJessica It’s running gag Vunessuh and lucielle came up with. They are 2 awesome and funny girls.

amberrae's avatar

CONFIDENCE! It is the key to being sexy.

JustJessica's avatar

Gotta love the awesome funny people in life… They make the world a pleasant place if you ask me!!! Thank you for all the answers everyone!!!! I’m not sure of the proper fluther etiquette am I supposed to thank everyone individually?

Vunessuh's avatar

Yes, @lucillelucillelucille is funny, but watch out for her. She tried to steal my man. XD

lucillelucillelucille's avatar

@Vunessuh -Steal,no. Befriend? Yes. ;)

tinyfaery's avatar

I find a lot of things sexy. Sometimes certain physical attributes are sexy: a particular body part, the way someone moves, or the tone of their voice. Other than that, I don’t think that I have a specific list of attributes that make someone sexy. It’s more about how the all the parts work together. Sometimes confidence is sexy, other times shyness is sexy. Sometimes I think butch women/feminine men are sexy, sometimes feminine women/masculine men are sexy. Intelligence isn’t even required, though most of the time it is. I have had some very good times with hot, but not so smart men and women.

Paradox's avatar

As far as physical looks go I have no certain thing I look for but women that are intelligent, serious and somewhat conservative usually do it for me. I prefer laid back women over the drama queens.

CaptainHarley's avatar

True sexy comes from within. It has to do with humor, attitude, happiness, personability, empathy and compassion. Someone may not have all of those qualities in abundance, but there should be a good mix. And I will take someone who knows who and what they are over someone who doesn’t any day of the week. Self-confidence based on a proven track-record in life is an aphrodisiac.

aprilsimnel's avatar

@Blackberry! Never trust a big butt and a smile! If I were you, I’d take precautions!

JustJessica's avatar

@Blackberry good come back… but it seems to be the weak point for A LOT of men.

Garebo's avatar

I think someone becomes incredibly irresistible once they demonstrate they are confident and comfortable with themself, react well in all situations, good or bad, and have the power to make her feel great about herself.

Cruiser's avatar

Beautiful hair and great legs and play the B flat Blues scale on a Kazoo!

wundayatta's avatar

She wears nine inch nails six inch heels, and her legs go all the way down to the ground. I look her up and down. The curve of her calf, the strength in her thighs, her short skirt barely hiding the gap between her thighs, her wide hips, narrow waist, breasts rising tremulously over a blouse that is barely held closed by a pearl button. Her neck is elegant and her cheekbones high.

It’s when I get to her eyes, that my heart truly begins to go wild. They are wide and big and sparkle with intelligence and humor. She knows what she’s doing to me and she is glad she is, but more than that, she knows that I see her not just her physical beauty. I can tell she has opinions, and knows things I don’t know, and at the same time, she likes to play—all kinds of play, not just bedroom games, although those games are what flash into my mind when I first look her up…. and down, unable to control my reflexive, purely male reaction.

I am attracted to her like a moth to a light. She is the only thing I see, and I am so turned on and yet, so anxious because when she says something to me, I can’t think, and I stumble over my words and I sound like a teenager trying to ask a girl out for the very first time.

In a few moment, my brain will kick in, and my control will be back on line, and the ion shields will protect me while the thrusters build up their power. But right now, I am entranced and thrilled to be a boy, and still wonder if she will say yes.

Jeruba's avatar

It’s in the eye of the beholder.

sleepdoc's avatar

For me, I think the way people carry themselves has lots to do with sexy. Maybe this is related to confidence or being comfortable with oneself. I have seen sexy in all different shapes, styles and ages.

Blackberry's avatar

@aprilsimnel I know, life is so unfair. The women I’m most attracted to are the most dangerous….

ucme's avatar

Charisma, something you can’t quite put your finger on…...so not the clitoris then! Err, where was I? Oh yeah, a combination of stuff really. Hard to explain, but very easy to spot. When I see it I want it & I usually get what I want…....well okay, sometimes I do. :¬)

CaptainHarley's avatar

@Blackberry

But, Dangerous women are fun! ; ))

iamthemob's avatar

What @mama_cakes and @lucillelucillelucille said. Sexy is a state of mind, and always comes from within.

It’s something that you realize someone has…it’s different from attractiveness, hotness, and other qualities I believe. It’s why some of the sexiest people on the planet are not, by a mile, the most attractive.

Blackberry's avatar

@CaptainHarley Yes, and that’s why I’m a risk taker…lol.

mattbrowne's avatar

Above all: smell.

Paradox's avatar

@mattbrowne Pheromones or cologne? :-)

Neizvestnaya's avatar

@mattbrowne: So strange but true.

Jeruba's avatar

What seems obvious to me is that people are attracted to all kinds of different traits in all kinds of different ways. All you have to do is look around you anywhere that couples are to be seen. Anywhere. People of all sizes, shapes, ages, etc., are paired up. How can anyone think there’s a single definable set of qualities? Thank goodness there isn’t.

CaptainHarley's avatar

@Jeruba

No, there’s not a single definable set of qualities, i.e. one size does NOT fit all. BUT… I have come to believe that there IS one particular person that you can be most compatible with, who almost perfectly complements your personality, and with whom you can have a truly great relationship. : ))

JustJessica's avatar

@CaptainHarley I totally believe that!
I know there isn’t one certain thing, but I loved all the answers.

mattbrowne's avatar

@Paradox – Both, but cologne is less important. And it’s not just about pheromones. Opposite immune systems attract.

http://dsc.discovery.com/news/2009/05/06/dating-smell-match.html

http://articles.latimes.com/2008/may/19/health/he-sex19

BoBo1946's avatar

da butta…................

JustJessica's avatar

@BoBo1946 what is Da Butta?

BoBo1946's avatar

The “butt !”

JustJessica's avatar

I should have known that, especially since my butt is so big I’m taller when I sit down!

BoBo1946's avatar

@JustJessica that is a good thing….. for many men. Sexy is in the “eyes of the beholder!”

Blackberry's avatar

@JustJessica So…..awesome…....lol.

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