Is it okay to send my classmate a message on Facebook and add her?

If it is too much, exactly what is your plan of attack? I didn’t think Facebook let you take back a message once it was sent…

Umm.. I would’ve just added her… I do that all the time. I think adding is better than sending a message. But nothing’s wrong with your message.

I think its too much of a message. Just hey whats up would have been better.

“Plays horse riding”?

what the feck are you talking about?

please be clear with ur answers..

It might be too much, it might not be. -It depends on the girl. I wouldn’t worry about it though, especially since you can’t take it back. Best to just look forward.

See how she responds, and then ask if you can add her as a friend in a return message.

God this is hilarious, you really need to be cool bro.

Why don’t you just add her? That’s what Facebook is for.

Or you could use the poke route. She’ll see you visited. Check you out. If not interested, hide and move on :P Less drama.

But you could always just talk to her in person, then use fb for the convenience – given different schedules etc.

Your message is just fine. If this girl has any empathetic sense, she will read between your “overly casual” lines and realize that you do, in fact, like her.
Don’t overthink it. @Zyx had it back there… be cool! And best of luck :-)

@Blueroses

@phoebusg @marinelife
@Ellis1919 @water123 @curiouscat @papayalily

she just replied: “I’m fine. How did you find me?”
Her name FB is not her real name, just found it through a group that had her name in the title, and she had commented before in that group…. What should I send her back?

“Saw your name on (blank) group. Just thought I’d say hi.”

keep it simple and honest – life is easier if you don’t have to keep track of excuses :)

I agree with @Blueroses, be honest. Tell her you happened to notice her in x group and you just wanted to say hi. It sounds as if she’d rather be left alone, because she asked how you found her. You might consider just dropping it after you reply. But, if you wanted, you could also include a question, asking her something about the class you guys are taking. -Like if she’s enjoying the class or what she thinks about your professor or regarding a current assignment you guys are working on.

@stevestl, Yep, I also agree with @Blueroses! =D Truth is the best way to go.

But I don’t think you should drop it, as @Ellis1919 suggests .—Her asking how you found her doesn’t exactly mean that she wants to be left alone. If it were me, I’d just be curious as to how people would find me if I didn’t have my real name for my Facebook page.

@Blueroses @curiouscat @Ellis1919 Thanks for your replies, but the thing is that the group I found her on is not even a big group, it was designed for group of about 20 high school students she was one of them. And I found the group by typing her real name in Facebook search box as the group title included her name.

It’s good to mention that we don’t talk that much in class to the level that we don’t even know each other’s names. I got her real name from Blackboard.

So, do you think it would be very insecure or sort of suspicious if she found out that I did all of this research about her?. I just need a proper response that can get me out of this awkward situation… THANK YOU ALL!

Okay since “be cool” wasn’t clear enough:

Stop the potentially inappropriate behaviour. It’s not that bad at all, as long as you chill the fuck out. If you want anything to happen and you’ve made a good impression so far (she knows who you are and isn’t disgusted or anything) just make a move. Tell her you like her and you’d like to spend time with her some time. If you know something you probably shouldn’t and you mention it to her just tell her the embarrassing truth and she’ll probably be fine with it.