Women and cheating, are their motivations that much different then men?

I think there are as many reasons and motivations for women to cheat as for men to cheat, from loneliness to horniness and all kinds of rationalizations in between. And I think it’s all too varied to make generalizations.

I do think that women cheat in order to find some emotional closeness, but they also do it because they are horny. I think men believe they are cheating just for sex, but I don’t think they realize that what they really want is intimacy that works for them. I think everyone cheats because they want to be fixed by the other person, and they don’t understand noone else can ever fix them. Only the individual can fix him or herself.

Many people have built up wall after wall to protect themselves from the pain they feel, wherever that pain comes from.They turn to alcohol and pot and drugs and sex. Who knows? Maybe some even turn to rock and roll. I’m only half joking.

Healing people is extremely difficult. I mean, you can’t really heal someone else. You can only heal yourself and someone else can only do the job on their own. But we can help each other.

Cheating is another way that people try to deal with the pain. Maybe it can be covered over with pleasure or a shot of love.

I don’t think women and men are much different in why they cheat, although I suspect they have differing awarenesses of why they do it. In the end, they just want to stop the pain, and that is a whole ‘nother story.

@wundayatta
kinda goin on a tangent here, but you didnt classify pot as drugs…. :P YAY

@pennybooks funny I noticed the same thing….

I cheated on a guy that I was with for four years, in which time he abused me emotionally and physically. I had completely lost myself and did it because a) someone found me attractive and enticing b) I had no respect for myself or the man I was with any more and c) I knew that that would be the beginning of the end and ultimately it got me out of the abusive relationship. I’m not condoning what I did and nor would I do it again but it served a purpose and longing in me that I had for a long time ignored.

I suspect that people cheat for many different reasons, male or female. However, I would think that men do it primarily for physical reasons and women do it primarily for emotional reasons, but I know people of both sexes that have cheated for converse reasons.

I would say men cheat faster and for more selfish reasons. If you look at nature the male is the leader of most of the animals groups and has many females so that the stronger genes survive and a stronger off spring is produced. We are animals and have some of the basic instincts. Women on the other hand I would think if they cheat it is because their inner emotional needs are not being met. There are exceptions to all scenarios but I do believe that men cheat more often though over time it is becoming widespread on both sides.

I think men cheat because they can, because they think it doesn’t matter, because they are sexually attracted to other women.

I think women mostly cheat because their inner needs are not being met.

I think that sometimes people cheat because they are just wanting to have sex with someone other than their S/O. But when it’s not for that reason yes I think women’s motivations for cheating is different than men’s. I think women cheat to feel loved and men cheat to feed their egos and feel respected.

I think men are socialized to think they simply can’t avoid cheating and place less responsibility on themselves for it. I think women are raised with a victim mentality and cheat because they think they’re driven to it by bad partners and place less responsibility on themselves for it.

Some would say it all goes back to the garden of eden when Adam and Eve sined by eating the forbidden fruit. Maybe I am getting off topic here but thats how “cheating” came about and that is “sin” as for motivations on why and how men and women cheat varys. Usually it is selfish motivations in my option if you want to be with someone else have the brains to tell the one your with already “I want to be with someone else.” But thats just my option. :)