Would posting a Xmas wish list on Facebook be tacky or useful?

Probably a bit of both.

I would personally appreciate a list that I could go and look at but you would need to have someone check off the things that were already bought so you would not be able to review the list until after Christmas.

One other note. If you got the whole family doing this then it would be great for everyone. Smile

@Summum I can totally see xmas registries being a thing of the future. You have registries for everything else, it seems.

I completely agree. I wish people would do it. I want to see the lists. I’m not a good guess-gifter.

LOL But at least you would get something of value to the person you were getting a gift for.

Instead of posting it for all to see, just send it to the people who actually need it.

I think it depends on how you share it. If you send the list as a private message to people who’ve asked for it, that’s fine. Posting it on your wall…tacky.

Oops. @JOE just beat me to it. :P

I make a “wish list” on Amazon for each of my kids and email it to my parents. I guess you can also add things to an Amazon wish list from other web sites as well. It’s really easy to use and you can email it directly to people.

I agree with @MissAusten , use the wish list on Amazon and share that with family. If you put it on FB it looks like you’re asking everyone on your friend list for a present, very tacky and off putting.

Right, which is obviously not my intention.

However, after thinking about the list idea, I really do want lists from other people. So.. just ask for them?

sure! or suggest THEY use amazon wish list.

In my family we say you have to have your wish list in by pumpkin pie on Thanksgiving

@zenvelo that’s cute. :)

Eh, seems practical to me. When my kids were born and everyone wanted to know what to get, I made a list and posted that on Facebook. It worked out.

My daughter did this over the weekend. Very convenient. She helped her brother do it, too. Lists are great.

Putting the list online…. could be helpful to a lot of people, although some will think it’s gauche. But wedding registers have been online for ages, and Amazon has wish lists, and so it seems very common. I’m surprised there isn’t an app for it. Probably is. I just don’t know it.

I think it will inevitably be perceived as tacky by some people, but anyone that knows me at all knows that it isn’t a cry to “buy me stuff!!”

I really am considering proposing a wishlist exchange. Though, I’m not sure why a list on Amazon is different than a list on Facebook?

I wouldn’t post it on the wall- I recently did a gofundme page to bring my son home, when they said you have to put it on facebook, I was like…nah

Here is why i don’t like to tell people what to get me for Christmas or birthday or anything else: I have gotten great gifts from people that have been things I never would have thought of buying for myself, or things I did not know about, or things I thought were not good gifts until I got it and then had to use it, or handmade things that were made just for me. Sometimes people pick out a scent, a color, a style that I would never pick for myself. If i gave a specific list I would never have received those things.

I feel like if I want something, I just go buy it. If I can’t afford it, I save up or wait till it goes on sale, or just don’t get it. I don’t have $500 pocketbooks for this reason.

When someone asks me what I want, I tell them to get whatever they think I would like. That leaves a whole world of possibilities.

I am a huuuuge fan of wishlists. I would find it way more useful than tacky. It can be really hard to find the right gift for someone and when you’re buying for loads of people, it can be even more difficult because you may not have the time to keep looking. A well-rounded wishlist of various items in all price ranges is awesome. It can give you a much better idea of a person’s tastes, so that you might not even have to use the wishlist.

On the other side of the coin, I have a huge Amazon wishlist that I created originally for myself, so I could keep track of the stuff I wanted and buy it when I had the money. I have enough stuff on there for the item chosen to be a complete surprise. I’ve gotten quite a few gifts off the list over the years and I was over-the-moon thrilled and surprised each time.

@jca I agree with you, really. I don’t like to make wishlists, I feel like it takes away a lot of the element of surprise. On the other hand, I feel like when people ask me what I want.. specifically my sisters or my mother, I know that they don’t want to hear that. They actually want to know what I would like to have. That’s why I ask people what they want, too.

@MissAnthrope I love wishlists from other people. I just feel extremely strange about making one for myself.

It seems the majority opinion is that I should make a private wishlist? I think I would rather not make one at all. I don’t want to single people out, I feel like that sounds even more like “buy me stuff!!”
I think I just won’t do it. I plan to ask for lists, though. I don’t think I’m backing down from that.

@TheOnlyNeffie – Start a wishlist.. you don’t have to share it. If you add enough stuff to it, you get into the element of surprise. Sure, if you picked something out of a list of 15, not so surprising. But what if you built up your list over the course of a year or more and had 100+ things on there, wouldn’t that add back in some surprise?

I have 280 items on my wishlist, many of which I’ve forgotten I even put on there at this point. I love when someone takes a peek and gets something off the list, because I honestly have no clue what I’m going to get.

@MissAnthrope That’s very true. Not in time for this Xmas, though. My current wishlist has 5 items on it. lol.

I wish people would give me a list. I never know what to get. It seems everyone already has enough “stuff”. And clothes? Forget it.

We tend to be very conservative and not spend a whole lot. If we want something, we buy it.
Food items seem to work great in my family. Exotic foods that you would never buy yourself.

My brother-in-law and I have a great tradition. We each give each other $50. It is the gift of a guilt-free, worry-free gift. We both say, “Thank you! It’s exactly what I wanted!” Perfect!

Facebook has the note feature where you can create your list and then share it along with instruction for anyone else who wants to paste and share their own. In my experience then most people would like to have a sneak at your list to see if there’s anything they haven’t thought of on their own or be enlightened you really don’t want a camouflage Snuggie.

To each their own,but it is not the approach I would take.I just don’t care enough about it.
The best gift I ever got was something money can’t buy anyway :)

By the way, I’d like one of those bathroom helper Rhesus monkeys.

Turn it into a Holiday meme, and tag a bunch of people. Post it in the notes section, and ask them to tag you back. There’s a bunch of Holiday memes floating around.

If people ask you for a shopping list, then you can give it to them, or as @BarnacleBill says, post it in an area they can click on to see.

I think all such lists are practices in excess although I get that their intent is to avoid buying a gift that isn’t needed or wanted. I think the problem comes with the day and this expectation that you must define your relationship through a gift of some kind. I would rather have people I know recognize a need or want randomly throughout the year and gift me then of their own accord or not than have the obsessions and compulsions of one day drive spending habits.
I don’t list. If someone can’t find a small token for me here and there across my life than that’s on them. Why do I need to assist them with that? If I’m standing in front of the scarfs and they can’t say…“Oh let me treat you’ sometime in October when I’ve decided I need one then I certainly don’t want it on December 25th.
I feel this way because my own mother would forgo buying something I really wanted only to have it show up months later in the wrong size or color at Christmas long after it could be exchanged…thus rendering me without the item I really, really wanted in the first place…like for example to wear on Valentines day. Why in god’s name would I want it on Xmas?
I actually just find the whole day one of burdensome excess and it’s one of the reasons I am no longer Christian.

I think a list is helpful. But for family members that you feel have no problem giving the more expensive items than let them know what you want seperately. For friends an family with a small budget who you know can’t spend much, you can suggest inexpensive gifts. Like winter gloves, scarfs, or baked goods.
For those you know who hate shopping, tell them a gift card for your favorite store will work.
It took 3 Christmases of asking for a soft flannel PJ, from my kids for them to understand that it was really what I wanted. They all thought I was trying to be nice. I was trying to be warm.
(My sister had bought me a warm flannel pj that was perfect in size and extremely soft. I wore it to death. Finally after 3 Christmas’s they finally got me another one. I couldn’t find any like it where I lived at the time. Now I got two more. Yeah!)
Anyhow, my point is even when its inexpensive people won’t get you what you want.