Have you ever unfriended anybody on FB, and under what circumstances did you do it?

I’ve never defriended anyone, even if I never really talk to them. I have been defriended before, though. Two occasions that I know of were both due to failed online relationships with friends of mine.

Yep I’ve done it a few times I was once requested by a girl I went to school with and when I first saw her in the local chippy see didn’t say a word. Then a similar thing with a guy in the local he blanked me from 2ft!

I play a couple of the games, and have added a bunch of people for that. They’re sort of disposable. If someone quits playing that app, they usually unfriend the people they added for it.

However, I’ll also unfriend these disposable folks if they are just too freakin’ obnoxious. I like discussing politics, but if they post a bunch of disrespectful crapola all the time about issues I can’t abide, I’ll cut them without a second thought.

I like to keep my friends list pared down to people I actually care about whatever is going on in their lives. I use FB to keep track of everyone in my life, to know what they’re doing, to check out their photos, and to keep in touch. Those who know me likely do the same for me because I am notoriously bad about not writing or calling.

I have definitely unfriended people, for various reasons. One girl was a crazy Ron Paul fan that kept posting the stupidest, brainless anti-Obama crap after the election. After she persisted in posting repeatedly about Obama’s birth certificate and how he wasn’t born in America and I rebutted with several reputable links, and then she continued to try to argue away reality, I gave up and hit delete. I’ve had enough craziness in my life, thanks.

I’ve defriended exes after the breakup because seeing their updates and how they were blithely carrying on in their lives without me was much too painful. I added them back at a later date, once I’d healed.

One friend who I’ve known for quite a long time tried to scam me out of several thousand dollars and when I called him out on it, never apologized or even commented. Not friends anymore!

I never tell them I’m doing it, I just do it. It’s way more subtle and less like I’m making a point that way.

Yes, a couple of times. One time I accepted a friend request from someone who was a friend of a friend. I made sure she knew who he was, and it was not just her allowing any old person to be her friend. She did know him. He still wound up to be a bit of a freak. Another time I had friended a friends boyfriend, when they broke up I defriended him in solidarity.

Anyone that sends me crap about farmville gets unfriended. Even my girlfriend I did refriend her however.

A girl from a few grades below me. We’d never spoken before, but we went to the same school, which used to be enough for me to friend someone.

Well, constant boring/in-joke status updates, joining offensive groups (eg. Fuck off, we’re full), invitations to every single game or fanpage ever followed. Now I don’t add anyone under the age of 17 unless I know them very well.

I have unfriended people for spouting anti Obama messages like @MissAnthrope said. I unfriended a person who made a smart ass remark about a picture I put up. I also unfriended someone who posted at least 507 times a day with ridiculous stuff like “my dad and son are on the way to Walmart, pray for them.” “I’m walking the dog, pray for us.” “I am having toast for breakfast and praised Jesus for my meal.” Also, to those people that friend me only because I went to the same high school and they never spoke to me then, I don’t friend back.
I’m a mean facebook user.

Sure. I’ve unfriended people I no longer speak to. I unfriended my ex-girlfriend after we broke up. I prefer to only have Facebook “friends” that actually are Friends.

I’ve never unfriended anyone but I did have to completely hide one guy, someone I don’t really know but I think I went to college with. I had to because he does just about every damn little facebook thing a person can do and with him it wasn’t enough to hide Mafia Wars, Farmville and that other crap one thing at a time like I do for other people.

I’m pretty careful about who I put on my friends list, except maybe for this guy, so it’s not something I’ve ever had to do. Almost all my facebook friends are either long time friends in real life, old school or work friends or family members. I have a few facebook friends I only know from online but they’re people I have interacted with online for years so I fell pretty good about them.

@chyna – your answer was very similar to how I feel. Except most of these people were my bible-thumping baptist family, so I instead created a whole new FB profile and invited my REAL friends so I wouldn’t have to read “pray for me” every day! not that there is anything wrong with praying, I just don’t want to have to read about it every day on FB!

loved this part, too: Also, to those people that friend me only because I went to the same high school and they never spoke to me then, I don’t friend back.

I am becoming a mean FB user.

I unfriended someone I had known for a few years. I would leave comments on photos of her or her kids, even leaving nice wall comments, and she would never acknowledge or say even a simple Thank you. Mind you, we never kept in touch, even when I would text asking how she was, etc. But, when I posted a semi-private comment re’ an ex(no names), she texted me right away, asking who I was talking about. Right then I knew she was just pining for info. She spelled out F-A-K-E without even trying.

I recently removed several “friends”. People that rarely acknowledged my existence. I doubt they noticed.

I have. I try to talk to people but if they’re bothering me to extent I delete them.

I have removed a couple of people from high school that I never talked to then and still didn’t interact with on FB after a while.

I try to not add people who I imagine I will not want to sustain contact with. I don’t even think I have broken 100 friends (yup, just checked: 91.) Before Facebook added the “hide from feeds” option or advanced privacy settings, I deleted several contacts. Now, I typically hide people when they begin to get on my nerves. There were a few people whom I had added to work on school work with whom I deleted a couple months ago, but other than that I do not think I have deleted many people.

And I go through periods, like now, in which I want to delete my account altogether.

I defriended this guy who I hadn’t seen since elementary school who constantly spammed his whole friends list with advertisements for shit he was doing.

Probably a couple people who have said really offensive things.

I think that’s it.

I once unfriended someone who would repeatedly sent out mass private messages about “he said/she said” type stuff I didn’t want to be part of. I didn’t give them advanced notice or a follow up.

I’ve unfriended acquaintances that had sent me a request, and then their postings were all annoying. they made some snarky comments about my posts.

For others (like the former co worker who sends and receives a 100 hearts, hugs, and flowers a day) I just hide their activity.

I’ve wanted to, not because I don’t like the people, but just because we have nothing to do with each other than we knew/know of each other. They send friend requests to collect a higher friend count, and when I first joined I felt bad for saying no; now I feel bad since it’s not like I know the new requestors any less than other “friends” I’ve accepted…

I wish we could have an easy way to sort our friends into different groups, rather than having to customize it for every person. So I could have ‘close friends’ who I get to see everthing from and share everything with, and ‘aquaintances’ who I accept just because they ask, but I don’t have to see what’s posted about them and they don’t see what’s posted about me on our newsfeeds. Because I don’t want to pop up on the newsfeeds people I know but don’t really know, and I don’t really care for them popping up on mine, but to *de*friend them seems too harsh, I just can’t do it.

@DancingMind I think that would be a great feature on facebook. To have something like “distribution lists,” the way you can with email, where you could adjust your privacy settings for particular groups people selected from all of your friends. I would really like that.

Ha,ha Yes! I have, not talking to them or the person and I are not friends. a lot people add me that know my parents so if I don’t know them in person I delete them from my friends list!

I defriended someone I used to work with, because I didn’t care for the direction some of their posts were heading: I didn’t want the people I work with or family/friends to feel I condoned what they were saying.

@chyna hahahaha ga funny made me laugh. my daughter unfriended me. she’s 14. so what she left her fb open on my phone so I can still lurk haha. And I got a friend request from the owner of a ratbag building I lived in when I was a junkie. hahaha wonder if he was gonna ask for the $500 I stiffed him for. I ignored it but the rest are people I pretty much know.

Once I got rid of all my friends, and then I got rid of my account. It wasn’t that big a deal, though. I think three people noticed.

I did it because I was depressed and angry and I thought no one cared, and I was getting down to the worst I had ever been. It kind of blows me away how emotional I was and erratic and unable to see what is so obvious to others. I keep on fearing that will come back, even though I take my meds and go to my meetings and all.

Well, more than you wanted to know. But the event brought back memories. Sorry.

@wundayatta we miss you and notice when you dissappear and leave.

I know, @JLeslie. It’s just that when I’m like that, I can’t see it.

I defriend anyone who does not post anything. I cant stand knowing they read about my life but dont say anything about their own

@wundayatta Make that four people that noticed.

Five

Yes , I have de friended a lot actually.
I tend to sort it out every month & get rid of a few more.
What’s the point if you don’t know the person, never intend on making contact & never even look at their profile because they are not interesting to you, or that insignificant in your world.
Ask yourself why , if you have these people just for a high friend count.
I also got rid of a lot recently as a group of people were being nasty about me, so I deleted them& even blocked a few.
I go on Facebook to engage with friends & enjoy myself. I don’t want to see nasty comments about myself, and I also don’t want to be bombarded with information about Matty from high school who I haven’t seen since 1993, never really spoke to in school , but now I know where he frequents on a Saturday night , and see his holiday snaps & know his favourite quotes. No, not for me. Just the REAL FRIENDS please.

@all Thanks guys!

I have a friend whose uber perky messages I’d like to be able to block, but I don’t want to unfriend her. I wish FB could automatically filter “annoying messages” lol. All she ever posts is biblical scripture and quotes and rainbow happy sayings about giving God control over your day and…...... ugh, I’m a believer guys, but she’s just so over zealous and so darn perky that it makes my head hurt.

There’s only one person I can think of and that was because she had some friends on her list that I didn’t want to be able to get any info about me. She wasn’t a close friend or even someone I knew well so I thought it was an easier option than constantly watching what I post on facebook for fear that she might tell her buddies.

@wundayatta: It was noticed but what you need comes first and we all have to respect that, kind of ebb and flow with you :)

@WillWorkForChocolate – You know you can hide her posts from your wall?

@MissAnthrope I don’t want to do that on the off chance that she posts something about her kids, since we’ve known each other since we were kids. It’s just frustrating to see her 9 out of 10 posts that are irritating…