Is it ok to give a kiss on the cheek on a first date?

If you still like him by the end of the date, grab him by the hair and ram your tongue down his throat!

I would say hold out, temptation and the want will make it so much better when it actually does happen naturally

@HungryGuy
ahahahhhaha xD

Depends on the people. You’re not young? I’m 18 and haven’t kissed anybody. It’s not a big deal. I would wait until the second date. You don’t want to freak him out or scare him. He might just be taking this hangout as two friends, not a real date. Wait till the second so he knows that it’s an established date. Like I said, right now you are two friends hanging out. Plus, make sure the feelings are mutual. The last thing you need is to lose a good friend.

@wgallios
well, I want this relationship to be a really good “friendship”, but a little past that, ya know? XD but do you know what I’m gettin’ at? :o

@ducky_dnl
well, yes, I know a lot of people who are into their 20s, and still haven’t had a first kiss :)
But where i live, it’s a bit different XD People start to date in the 8th grade (which I’m in) and it’s almost expected to be in a relationship lol. It’s tough haha

I know what you mean, but I always go for the natural route. Feel things out (not literally). You’ll know if there is chemistry there or not and whether you’ll be friends. But when it comes to any psychical activity (even on a larger scale) the more that happens sooner, I find it just feels sort of like a bottle rocket. It shoots up, pops, a quick, “ooh” and “ahh” then you’re over it; its no longer exciting.

But I went to school out here in Las Vegas, and it was pretty much like you had said, when I was in 7th/8th grade, many people were already bf/gf. But dont let it pressure you, like I said, let things happen naturally. If at the end of the night, and you guys are about to part ways, if everything is right, you guys got 5 minutes alone, go for it. Either way just enjoy the feeling while you have it.

It depends. I would wait and see how he is planning on ending the date. Since you asked him out, I am thinking you should not also be the first to kiss.

@wgallios
Well, (lol, i so did not laugh at that bottle rocket example LOLOL) I… Don’t want the relationship to get so… “serious” until a LOT later. Maybe in the ending years of high-school, if it lasts that long. (and I think it just might, we’ve been friends for a very long time). He also shows all the signs of liking me ^^ I think it’s rather cute, really <3 Well, for both of us, we really would go VERY slow lol. I can see it XD Again, I would love for it to be one of those, “a step up from friendship” relationships :) That’s what I really want lol

@marinelife
Well, the way date is going to go like this:
He’s going to meet me at the mall, and then most likely, his mom will pick him up. So we’d probably split up somewhere at one point. And, I live in the city, where the mall is, but i just moved here, and I used to live in the smaller town right nearby where we (still) go to school, and grew up.

You’re in 8th grade?!?! Then I take back what I said about ramming your tongue down his throat. At that age, you’ll be changing boyfriends more often than you change underwear…

Well I can say, if you’re feeling this way, odds are he probably is to. Relationships (even friendships) requires both people. He wouldn’t be getting this far into it if he didn’t think somewhat the same way you are.

But slow is good. I can say from a 10 years later standpoint, keep those types of people around in your life if you’ve known him since say 2nd grade. You never know what comes from old friendships and relationships.

I will say the first girlfriend I ever had when I was in 7th grade, I still know/talk to her today. She doesn’t live in Vegas anymore but she is moving back ;p I just saw her last week actually when she was in town visiting. It’s just amazing to see how two peoples lives change as they grow up and yet still somethings stay the same.

@HungryGuy
LOLLLLLLLLLLLL XD I would never of done that to begin with, not until like, I’m at LEAST 16, or 17. Even at that, idk… and lol, I don’t think I’ll be changing bfs, like, ever XD I really like him QuQ and, I’m not the most popular kid in the school haha. Out of my choices of bfs, he’s like the only one. Maybe on other person lol.

no at 14. yes at 34. BTW, if you felt the need to ask the question then your gut was telling you not to. Follow your gut. Don’t rush this stuff.

@wgallios
Well, it would be really slow haha. I wouldn’t go past kissing on the cheek maybe lips for at least another few years XD
@DandyDear711
LOLLLLLLLL I’ll keep that in mind, hahaha

AND OH GOD, HE HAS NO CELLPHONE. I just ghought I should mention that, since it’s slightly awkward having to call his house phone, and ask for him ^^;; And I know his mom pretty well, so augh. But his mom’s such a sweetheart, shes really nice :)

I didnt have a cell phone till after I graduated High School. I remember having to silence my parents phone and have them call at like 1AM and answer it as quick as possible so no one would hear the ring. Then you pray no one picks up the phone and listens to your conversation..ahh the memories haha

I remember I bought a prepaid cell phone for a bit, I dont know about these days, but back then you didn’t even have to be 18 to buy one, and get minutes. It was pretty sweet. Then you could call him on that.

@wgallios
Well, in this day and age, just about everyone owns a cellphone. If you don’t, it’s kinda…. yah lol. And well, I just got a brand new Palm Pre (i had my previous phone for 4 years, so it was free hell yahhhh), and I was possibly thinking about giving him my old phone. It’s a fuckin’ tank, I swear. It’s still goin’ strong! But, the only thing is, they would have to get the service, and blah blah etc… And then, it would be super complicated lol. So i guess for now, the way it is will have to be okay. I should just tell him to ask for a cell for christmas XD His parents already offered him one, but he didn’t want it, so idk what he was thinking xD (this was well before I asked him out, that they offered)

Don’t plan it all out, take it slow and do what feels natural at the time. If you’ve asked him out, he already knows you “like” him.

To answer your question, no, don’t kiss him. The mall is the wrong context. Take it slow. From this point on, he knows you’re interested. He needs to do some of the work in this, and there’s no rush. Really.

I don’t know. I think a little peck on the cheek sounds cute. Disneyesque. I don’t think it’s that significant, but it may surely rock his world. He could be entirely flummoxed, but in a good way. If a girl had kissed me on the cheek when I was 14, I probably would have fainted. But to have her lean in and whisper in my ear, “You’re fun,” and make a quick kiss, then walk away, with just one little saucy look back. Man. We’re talking fairy princess stuff here.

No. I don’t think it’s a big deal. You may be 14, but you seem to understand the consequences, and understand this may not be going anywhere. You’ll know at the end if you should or shouldn’t. I think you have to trust your instincts and not plan this. If it’s appropriate, do it, and if not, don’t push it. Pushing it will make things awkward for you both. I don’t think you want to risk that. There’s always the next “date.”

I say this and I have a 14 year old daughter. I would tell her the same thing because I trust her decision-making. One of the decisions she seems to have made is that she is not ready to be dating, yet. She’s just figuring things out. She has lots of friends who have been dating. The actually go to her for advice. I think she understands what she’s ready for and what she isn’t ready for.

@wundayatta
You got what i was thinking spot-on XD
My litteral question was just asking if it was “okay”, not if I should and your answer actually took that into account! I know that I should go with the natural flow, but I really wanted to know if it was alright if I wanted to lol
Thanks!
(ps, ur fairy-princess thing made me laugh rlly hard haha!)

What @wundayatta said.