How do you gain your parents trust back?

It will take time. Do the right thing and expect them to be cautious about trusting you again. The only thing you can do is be sure to do what you are suppose to be doing. If you are suppose to be home at a certain time, show up a few minutes early. If you are suppose to finish a project by the end of the week, have it done a day early if you can. Most importantly, understand that they are going to question you and instead of giving them grief about it, be considerate and respond to them nicely.

In the future, be completely trustworthy, and in time they will begin to show you some trust. It is not easy.

@Seaofclouds and @YARNLADY both got it right….just do the right thing one day at a time!

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Ask them how you can gain it back and then listen to what they say.

@Seaofclouds and @YARNLADY are both right. It takes time. Sometimes lots and lots of time. Show your parents that you can be trusted, and whatever it was that you did to cause them to lose their trust – don’t do it again.

My advice for teenagers based on my experiences (I’m assuming you’re a teen; sorry if this isn’t the case):
Don’t ever bother trying to lie to your folks. They’re not stupid, and they won’t be fooled for long. Whether they let on or not, chances are that they know what’s really up.

i agree with all above, and would add that perhaps you volunteer to do some things you don’t normally do within your family environment. For example, ask to take the dog for a walk to give it some exercise, ask to take out the trash, and/or ask if mom or dad need any help with anything. If they do, you will have an opportunity to relate to them in close proximity, and talk about other things as well to gain back what was lost plus some.

Well, when you lose trust it’s hard to gain it back but here are some ideas. 1. Send them a sorry note with really muture & sweet things @janbb I think your right take time to listen to what THEY say. Not us. we do have good ideas but if you listen to what they say you’ll probally get more information.

I taught my brother how to do it. Do you have any siblings? Because my technique requires them.

My parents did not trust my younger brother to follow through or be responsible. What i did was slyly interview them and try to get to the root of their issues and exactly what they thought he had to improve on (you’d be suprised how happy your parents are to discuss their issues with you with your siblings). I also asked what they would like to see him do. With this information I came back to my brother and we made a long term (several month) plan of goals and attitude adjustments to be made along the way. It took some work but he matured enormously and accomplished everything he wanted to and my parents are over the moon happy, proud, and trusting :).

This process can be frustrating, because IT WILL be a constant critique of who you are and why you are the way you are. Most importantly do your best not to blame others or lash out.

Be consistent, get comfortable to offer more transparancy on your part and be patient because it will take time. Don’t expect too much too soon, especially from people close to you who tend to feel hurt more deeply and hold it longer than a lot of other people in your life. If it’s important to you then just hang in there and follow through, even when they have suspicions or you run into accusations. Hold your ground and prove yourself. In my experience it’s worth it.