Have you made any decisions in your life which you view as the best choice, but people would view as selfish?

Nobody else in our home is allowed to breathe but me.

It’s really freed up the oxygen in the home so I really don’t give two fucks what anyone else thinks.

Buying my company! I have paid dearly for this decision and don’t and won’t regret it…..ever!

I went to my second choice college because it’s closer to home and therefore closer to the boy I was dating at the time. I still view it as a really good decision but for entirely different reasons. That boy and I have since broken up.

I haven’t told too many people that for the very reason you asked about in your question.

I’ve decided to just say what I feel instead of holding it in. It’s better to snap off heat of the moment with words, than to let it boil and physically hurt someone.

I’ve decided to concentrate primarily on my job and career path instead of relationships, and some think that is selfish.

Yes, a huge and difficult one. After being married for 17 years, and a stay-at-home mother for many of those years, my husband and I divorced. That alone was a shocker for many of our friends and relatives, but here’s the biggie: My three daughters live with their father. (He has physical custody, and I have visitation. We share joint legal custody.) He and I made this decision together, for many reasons – all of them good. But even in today’s more enlightened world, a divorced mother without primary custody is an oddity and viewed with some skepticism. Clearly, I must have done something wrong and lost my children (not true), or I abandoned them for my own selfish reasons (also, not true).

If the person matters to me, I explain my situation fully. If not, I don’t. Let them think what they will.

I have decided to go for the girl I was madly in love with, even though she was almost married, living with her boyfriend, and (the best has yet to come) she is (still) my boss.

People view this as stupid, more than selfish.

Let’s say that every decision I make is, in my mind, the best decision. Of course some of them are going to be seen as selfish. I believe that every decision I make is the best one I can make at the time. Some may be mistakes. There are some that others will think are mistakes. There are numerous decisions that others call mistakes.

There have been several times when I was driven to put my sexual needs before my obligation to my family.I was being very selfish, but I believed those were the best actions I could take at the time. In fact, I believed I was saving my marriage when I did those things! Talk about selfish!

I decided to have a child as a single mother via a sperm bank (and a nasty bout with infertility treatments) which was considered extremely selfish by most, and which I (and hopefully, @KatawaGrey ! ;-) ) think was the best decision I ever made.

I’ve moved far away from my family and friends several times; they view this as selfish and feel as though it’s something personal against them. They know I’ll be moving far away again and attempt to give me a guilt-trip weekly.

At one point in my life I dropped out of college to pursue a career as a street performing juggler. About a decade later I sold everything I owned to help a friend start a toy company. Both of them were certainly selfish and they were two of the three best decisions I’ve made in my life.

I have decided not to answer this question, to keep my thoughts to myself. Do you think that is selfish?

My decision not to have children when I was pregnant and my decision to be sterilized. I knew from a young age I was very needy and would have a hard time “catching up” emotionally to other adults in order to even have solid relationships so I ruled out children of my own. Ideally I know exactly how I’d want to raise them and it’s nowhere near any part of the life I’ve lived so far.