Has receiving kindness from others given you pain?
I just had to tell my studio that I wouldn’t be going there for a while, that I had to sort out some things before I would be able to be of a dancing mindset. That was hard. So so hard.
Harder, though, was to get nothing in response but kindness and understanding, hearing things like “it will only make you stronger” “we understand” “know that you are loved”. It’s good. It’s surprising. They’re being nothing but supportive. But it hurt to hear. Which it shouldn’t. it’s confusing.
I think it would feel better, almost, if they were mad. I’m dropping out days before some upcoming performances of ours. I would be mad, if I were them. Wouldn’t I? Wouldn’t you?
So I’m wondering, have you experienced that before? Where the sympathy only felt like thorns? Of a rose, there’s a bud above, but you’re holding the thorny stem they handed you.
Have you felt warmly to someone when they’re causing disruption? Handed them a well-meaning rose?
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I don’t know, but I think the only circumstances under which a person would not appreciate the kindness of others is either if they don’t think they deserve it or don’t think they deserve to be cared about or if they are sort of misanthropic and don’t like people. Do you have any idea why you might not like people being kind to you? Or do you think they are being disingenuous? Do you think they are actually upset with you and are just pretending to be kind and understanding?
wow this question can go anywhere. I will try. First reation was that you got a response that was unexpected and reinforced the doubts that you are feeling.
Second reaction; after reading more details, that is the business that you are in and it is full of fake, No one fought for you because they where eager to take your place. Knowing that made those good wishes feel like thorns.
If you follow your passion you have no choice but to succeed. Success to me after all these years is still just being able to create. As an artist you will understand, I hope you find your way and bloom.
Of course.It’s called empathy and understanding.Good luck with whatever you do :))
Has receiving kindness from others given you pain?
To answer that I would have to say that it isn’t possible for true kindness to cause true pain. Like giving a homeless guy a sandwich that gives him food poinsoning? Or being hugged to tightly? Or being given too much too soon and we basically as the saying goes, got given enough rope so we hung ourselves. But real kindness is just that, kind, not harmful. I didnt read the details.
Yes it has! All this love is killing me! AHHH!!!
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