How do you deal with awkward, and comfortable people?

Yeah, it’s usually a personality difference. For example, loud and extroverted people….make me uncomfortable and for good reason. Most people, I’m comfortable with…. People that I’m comfortable with have the same values about life. For example, this person listens to what i have to say and vise versa. We have all been around people that never hear a word you have to say. That is no fun.

Isn’t this part of the purpose of poetry? To comfort the afflicted, and afflict the comfortable?

Quote poetry to them, then.

I can’t remember the last time I was uncomfortable around anyone.It would have to be a situation where I was in fear for my life. ;)

I feel uncomfortable around people if I suspect that they dont like me…or if i suspect they like me much more than I like them. I dont like to feel I am being judged or scrutinzed (who does?) and some people give off the impression they are doing so…i tend to avoid such people.

I’ve met people I considered socially akward but that didn’t mean I was uncomfortable with them – in fact, they probably more than made up for their supposed inability to deal with a lot of people with other (more valued, to me) qualities. I think I make others feel awkward sometimes by being blunt and no one would call me awkward, I think because I am pretty outgoing. The people who make me comfortable are open-minded and able to see nuance in mostly everything in life, including our relationship or friendship.

Each and everyone of us is different. We have to accept this.
I agree totally with what @BoBo1946 says about values :)

Lots of good answers. Just remember that when you say you don’t make things awkward, that probably only applies to a certain subset of people and situations. There will always be people who will think something is awkward when you think its normal. If you spend a little time to get to know the person you might find a great friend who is a bit different from your other friends.

When I meet awkward people, I usually have conflicting feelings. I feel bad about their clumsiness, and I wish I could help them. Often they are insecure and anxious, and I want to figure out how to help them lose the anxiety. On the other hand, sometimes they are so awkward, say in the way they move or the way they talk, that I get acutely uncomfortable, and wish they weren’t there.

Mostly I feel like I am on their side because I feel an inner awkwardness that may not show on the outside. I feel like we are comrades in some way.But some of us have better social skills. Maybe it’s because of a lack of confidence and a feeling that I don’t belong there or I’m going to say the wrong thing and embarrass myself. If I drink enough, that fear seems to go away and I proceed to make a fool out of myself.

With comfortable people, usually there’s no problem. It kind of depends on how they express their comfortability. If it’s too comfortable or fakely comfortable, then it sets me on edge.

I would be uncomfortable around this guy. But other than that, I’m pretty easy going.

I am more comfortable around people with a sense of humor, or an appreciation for humor. People that are serious all the time and hardly ever smile make me want to run and hide under the nearest piece of furniture. I have known both kinds of people. I can easily befriend that are a combination of honest and funny. People that are stern and serious make me feel very uncomfortable to the point of overcompensating for their lack of friendliness by trying to please them excessively. (Comes from childhood. EEW.)

In your detail about the other person, ”...they seem kind of boring”. Maybe he/she is bored? maybe they have seen it, done it, etc.

Liars and cheats make my hair stand on end and people with negative attitudes. You CAN sense these people the minute you get near them and I usually will react accordingly…like move away! ;)

I don’t know. “Ackward” can be a varied term. Some people I just get a gut feeling with, like good or bad vibes. I don’t know how else to say it. Even though I’m quiet there are many quiet people that make me very uncomfortable because you don’t know if their “ackwardness” is because of you or for whatever reason.

There is a feeling we get when we think someone doesn’t like us. Maybe that is the awkward feeling about.

we don’t “get” those feelings… we create them

Please see this re. “we don’t “get” those feelings… we create them”
http://www.fluther.com/106090/if-someone-doesnt-like-you-how-do-you-know-without-them/

@flo, thanks!

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