Do you tell yourself lies?

It probably happens the most at the beginning of a relationship…you tell yourself that whatever it is he just did isn’t really THAT bad.

No.I can’t get away with it ;)

Yes. To hide from truths I don’t want to hear. Sometimes it’s ignoring something, sometimes not admitting something bad.

For some things, it goes in a kind of a continuum.
I’ll tell myself that everything’s awful and falling apart, so well that I start to really believe it and give up. Haven’t figured out why I do this yet.
Then, when I feel like I’m at or close to the bottom, I start to pretend the reverse. That everything’s wonderful and I’m just where I used to be becaues I don’t want to be where I put myself. These lies are shakier, but they help.

I’ll lie to myself about things like my dog still being here. I’ll avoid looking at his old dog bed and pretend he’s curled up there like he used to be.
Or I’ll pretend that in a few moments I’m about to go back in time and be able to redo a bunch of mistakes I’ve made recently, so that none of them really matter.

Lucky bastards, I have to take drugs to get away from the truth.

“Relax,” I tell myself soothingly, “it’s perfectly safe to do her for a dollar. Crack prevents STDs.”

Yes and anyone would be lying if they didn’t admit it.

I used to lie to myself, but one day I asked myself what was the payoff in continuing to believe this nonsense? Then the light(s) began to come on. After that, freedom, for me, and for those around me. When I changed, so did my whole family, and the dysfunction disappeared. Parts of this happened slowly, and parts of this happened within seconds. Overall, it resulted in a total paradigm shift for all involved.

Nope. Other people tend to do that for me.

I’ve been thinking and thinking about this…I can say there are times when I’ve preferred not to know what I know that I know (O ga!,) but sooner or later I come around and face it. But that doesn’t happen very often. Usually I think I call things as I actually see them, on the spot.

I know exactly the kind of lies you are talking about. The kind where I sit there and tell myself the truth until I am blue in the face, but I still believe the lie anyway. So on top of all the trouble caused by believing the lie in the first place, I am now mad that I can’t make myself stop believing it.

For me, these lies tend to be along the lines of:
-I’m ugly
-I’m fat
-not eating is the only way to be pretty
-food is bad for me/I don’t need to eat
-nobody will stick with me once they realize how messed up I am
-I’m worthless if I fail
-no one could really love me
-the people that think they love me will eventually give up on me
-I’m not good enough (in general and for whatever I’m responsible for)

I wish I knew why these lies are so powerful. Maybe then I could make them go away. For now, I just do my best to live in the truths that I know, even though the lies are what feels true.

This was a really good question, @wundayatta.

Often! whenever I am in a situation where no once can help me..I console my heart that everything will be alright..this helps me come out of any worst situation.