(NSFW) How do you girls feel about your butt size?

I have the opposite problem. I have.. an average butt. My sisters both have the more bodacious figure, and if anything I’m jealous that they are curvier than I am. They both love their butts, as well.
This all goes back to the same thing that I frequently complain about… and that is how obsessed people are with womens bodies and appearances. It’s very frustrating. I, for one, would love to love my own body and face for once in my life.

It’s one thing to have good self-esteem and feel good about one’s body and it’s a completely different thing to wish to be free from sexual harassment from entitled assholes on the streets. Many a woman have hated their breasts, butts and curves because of the male gaze they receive when they’re out in the world. I think I have a great butt, I like it, my partner likes it but it’s nothing others even deserve to glimpse at, without my permission – no matter what I wear (not that it should ever matter), I get cat-called (we often discuss this issue on Fluther) and I hate it.

@Simone_De_Beauvoir I understand that completley and I suppose that is why she feels the way she does. I have heard women complain that way about their boobs too, but in mens defence….i mean with all do respect… they look good to us and if we are single we definietly try to get your attention by complimenting on your best parts. Again my lady….no disrespect intendended

Would it help if I said as a male I just like all kinds? I just enjoy the variety. There’s no perfect size.

I am in a similar boat to your neighbor. It is frustrating to buy pants because what fits the butt does not fit the waist which is annoying and inconvenient and often requires extra tailoring. Though there are a few brands (Levis are one) that do fit perfectly. So over the years I have mostly fixed the pants problem and come to accept that while I think my butt is bigger than it should be, my boyfriend does nothing but obsess over it, so I don’t mind now. :) I guess when I was younger the ads of stick-skinny women in magazines got to me way more than they ever should have. Now I find them repulsive. I like myself more.

Some realize the power it has over men and love their bodies (not because of the power, I hope), and some just want to be thin, although I’m not sure if they want to be unhealthy thin, or just have their butt smaller. Either way, it’s disheartening when a woman becomes a puppet to the system and hates her body when it is exceptionally graceful and juicy lol.

I had no idea about the jeans issue, that makes sense and I can see how it would be a problem, just like very tall people trying to find clothes.

@EGGIE You are a stranger complimenting me on the parts you find appealing – that has nothing to do with respect to me. I know you “mean well” but that’s not what I consider an awesome compliment in my direction. I may be one person but you’re making an assumption about what I’d like to hear when I walk to work at 8 in the morning and ‘nice tits’ ain’t it.

I don’t really think about my butt much, I worry about my general overall size and shape. It my legs that I’ve always been concerned about. Ultimately I know if I lose weight it will disappear from all places giving me a smaller butt, but I guess the shape of it is fine. OH I do have a classic hourglass figure though… I’m becoming better at accepting myself and therein my body.

Meh, I like it okay. I’m pretty sure every guy I’ve been with has complimented me on it, so it must look good to them…I wouldn’t mind if it was a teensy bit bigger, though. But I think it fits my body well as is.

I have a small butt and I’m happy with it! My boyfriend is always telling me how awesome he thinks my arse is :)

Someone could ask the same question about guys.

I completely agree with @deni about finding pants. I’ve found some Levi that work for me as well, but I like switching it up from time to time and it’s hard. Dresses are also hard because what will fit over my hips/ass usually doesn’t look to good around my waist unless it’s a dress that is cut to flair out at the waist or I have is tailored.

I personally like my body and just ignore any comments that I don’t really want to hear. My husband likes my body as well and that’s really all that matters to me.

@Simone_De_Beauvoir Im sorry….....

I never understood cat calling. I mean I’m a boy, and I understand that its natural to look… and sometimes we get lost staring at stuff…. Its just what we are, we honestly can’t help it.

But to randomly spout of something like “nice tits” to a complete stranger….. I mean heck if I get caught looking, I usually feel really embarrassed. I can’t imagine whats going through that guys head… like… does he think that his vulgar compliment is really gonna have her swooning over him or something?

i have a larger butt. haha. but i like it a lot actually(: though it is sort of hard ot buy pants sometimes, or i just have to wear a belt with everything!

uuu I have a big AFRIcan one and I loove it :)
I love dressing up in dresses and jeans where my butt really shows off. But the fact that guys stare or want you only for your butt and/or boobs is just not respectful.
Well I embrace my butt because some people don’t have them as they wish to have them and so am thankful for that “hour glass” shape I “think” I have .

i agree with @Thesexier

I think my butt is great but it’s not big, it’s practically non existent since I’m ankles all the way up. In my experience then clothes look better on plumper butts and also are marketably more attractive which means it IS true that more people love plump rumps.
My bf has a plump rump and I think it’s the sexiest thing ever!’’

@EGGIE Don’t be – you haven’t offended me; just trying to give you a different perspective on how it might come off when you do what you consider complimenting. And believe me, there are plenty of women who do think of these cat-calls as compliments but that’s another story and I have my own opinions as to why.

If anyone has any booty they’d like to spare, I am taking donations over here.

Not to sound cocky but I think I have a great butt! It’s not huge but it’s not small either. it’s perfectly proportioned with the rest of my body. I don’t mind when guys look at my butt.. it’s perfectly natural so long as they don’t say or do anything inappropriate. There’s nothing wrong with just looking every now and then. Girls with nice butts should be flattered by the attention they get. :-)

I can sit with it.
It helps hold up my trousers.
It’ll do.

We need more questions like this.

@kheredia and jellies in general… How do you know when someone is looking at your butt? Are they not behind you? Or maybe it’s just that no-one looks at my butt?? or does it just seem that way? x

@nebule That’s me behind you checking out your butt: NICE!

<blushes> thanks! ;-)xx

:) xx

I personally sneek glances at it especially when girls are walking in the street, or when they get up from the chair…usually those with a huge sexy one pulls their pants up a tiny bit…....woooww