Well, from my perspective of seventy+, these are things I’ve learned along the way. I wrote them down to remind me when I’m totally out of it. They may seem much more related to the ‘50’s, but that’s where I was.
If you’re telling a story or relating an event to a friend or group of friends and someone interrupts for something, if the friend(s) don’t ask what happened next, don’t continue. I tend to want to tell the story sometimes more than my audience wants to listen.
How your hair looks is less important than you think it is. A lively look in your eyes and a big smile is more attractive than any hairdo.
From my mother: Always turn OFF the oven BEFORE martinis.
In preparing food for guests: Be flexible if you are running late in the kitchen and don’t fret about it. Fruit salad can be served as whole fruit, if necessary. Omit something you meant to serve but didn’t get done. Your guests don’t know what the menu plan was.
Don’t think you have to be perfect! It isn’t worth the stress and you don’t always get the result you hope for. I turned out some pretty fancy meals, but, partly as a result, we didn’t often get invited back by those people who felt they couldn’t do that. I enjoy doing the complicated cooking, and tried to explain that, but some people still found it daunting.
If your spouse doesn’t care to do some of the things you love to do, find a way to do those things without him/her if you can. If you dance and he doesn’t and he isn’t interested in learning, take a dance class. . . . jazz, ballet, tap, line dance. . whatever. You want to travel; she doesn’t. Find a friend or group of friends and go. He may hunt and you don’t, or be active politically, or belong to a club. You don’t have to do everything in lock-step.
Don’t feel guilty about taking time to read.
Listening is often more important than talking.