What is a reason for you to leave a good relationship?

My life goals do not permit me to be with the person, and as selfish as it may sound, I’m not giving up or compromising my goals for “love.”

If you discover you’re not ready, mature enough, or able to fully commit to the person, it’s better to get out instead of hurting them later.

Other than being unfaithful, if my s/o was an animal hater, then I would not stay with her. I love dogs and animals and nature are an important part of my life.

They’re not comfortable with their sexuality or aren’t open to things sexually; they’ve become someone different; they don’t treat me as an equal; they’re not living up to their potential; they’re stagnant, they’ve become more religious than I’m comfortable with.

I would not leave if I had made a lifetime commitment. The reasons mentioned prior to my answer would not force me to leave the person I love and am committed to. They wouldn’t even make me think about it. Obviously those four people are not really committed which is, of course fine. The worse thing to do is commit and then abandon your spouse.

If they were not happy with my sexuality or gender identity.
If they wanted to force me to move to a different city

@perspicacious I don’t think the OP specified that the relationship involved marriage or lifetime commitment, only that the relationship was a “good” one.

I would leave someone if all trust had gone out of the relationship.

Good relationships can change over time. I don’t think I would leave a good relationship. A not-so-good one is a different critter altogether.

@partyparty that would say to me that it was no longer a good relationship.

If it were a good relationship, I think I would stay and just try to work out the issues. But lack of sexual chemistry would severely try my patience.

I’d only leave if it turned out what I’d been thinking was a good relationship was actually a farce.

If my partner had been supressing a homosexual nature, I’d let him go.

If my partner was hiding addictions they had no plan on kicking, I’d let him go.

If my partner was “settling” to be with me instead of wanting with his their heart and passion to choose me over all others, I’d let him go. This one’s a huge issue for me because I don’t want someone’s love because I’m deserving, the best they think they can get or what other people say they should be thankful for. I want my partner to choose me because they can’t think of being without me.

@Winters: What you say happens, it happened to me. The man I thought was the best match I’d ever known cut me loose because I had financial obligations that kept me from joining him in the lifestyle he had chosen. I never imagined someone could turn love down but now I’m a believer and for a few years it made me very untrusting of people to the point I’m not entirely the person I was once before this man. Oh well, live and learn.

Jealousy might have tore me causing me to leave or the fact that the relationship is to good to be true. I probably would want to stay friends after and the relationship could have been ruining our friendship.

@downtide Yes I think trust is so very important :)

I think some of you are missing my point, or I didn’t explain it very well. Some of you are giving me things that go bad in a good relationship (thus in my mind turning it into a bad one). I am talking about all is fine and then one person leaves for a reason beyond the relationship, say for instance, my grandmother is dying and I have to move across the country to take care of her. That’s just one thing I can think of, but more along those lines—-

@Ponderer983: It happens all the time when couples split up to go away to colleges apart from each other or one of a couple goes into the military or a job takes one out of the country with no affordable way for the other to follow.