Should I date a friends ex?

Go for it.

“All is fair in love and war” so If you really like him let him know!! Good luck

Of course! It was two years ago and you’re not even good friends with the ex.

Oops missed that last bit. Of course! It was a month ago!

They were together for two years and it’s been a month since they broke up? Unless the relationship wasn’t particularly intense or involved, it seems unlikely that you can enter this relationship without some serious drama. Whatever, though. Enjoy yourself, just be sure you brief your friend first, because if she finds out after the fact, she’s much more likely to feel abandoned by both of you.

If she’s not actually a friend, then yah why not? If she is a friend, then it is verbotten without first asking the friends permission. And even if you ask you’re supposed to wait some significant length of time after their break up.

Of course you can totally ignore asking the friend at all. But you will likely screw up the friendship to an immense degree.

If they were a good friend I would ask their opinion, otherwise it shouldnt matter.

Unless she is a very close friend, then I say go for it.

Generally, I play the “Bro’s before ho’s” rule. I’d prefer to find someone on my own and I actually hate dating within a circle – meaning, dating someone that’s been with the same circle of friends or people.

If you’re totally feeling this d00d though, I would ask your friends what they think. Going directly to the actual friend, she might just be irritated and give you negative feedback, and make the situation complicated before it even begins.

You had fun just goofing…give it a go for real!! I bet you have a blast together!

thanks guys, yeah she’s not at all a close friend. To be honest I get the feeling she doesnt even want me in the same circle of friends so I wouldn’t say she was a decent friend :)

Is there any misunderstanding about what “ex” means?

That’s what friends are for, now you can find out if all the juicy gossip is true…. I’m assuming there was some juicy gossip, when your friend was dating him!!?? :-/

I would say, do it! I mean, you really cannot control who you are attracted to so there must be something there, right? Expect the gossip mills to start churning though. People in your circle will definitely talk about it, but that is naturally going to happen I believe. The “other” girl will probably dislike you forever (2 years is a long time for any couple) but that shouldn’t matter to you because them two made the decision to break up. It’s not like you are some home wrecker. Good luck!

She didn’t want him, so why shouldn’t you date him? She doesn’t own him. He has a right to decide who he wants to go out with. I never understood this weird idea of never dating an ex of a friend.

If she is not a close friend, then I would say it’s probably ok. If she’s a casual friend, it might be nice to ask her if she would feel uncomfortable with it. Listen to what she has to say. She might give you some good advice (or warnings) about why they’re not together anymore . You said that the fellow told you that the ex-girlfriend was bitchy. You don’t know that for a fact, unless she has been bitchy to you. He may have just said that to make her sound bad. Consider why he would have been with her for 2 years if she was “bitchy.” She may have broken up with him. It would be nice to find out why they really broke up.

The thing that may cause you some grief, unless you figure it out, is why do your other friends get annoyed with this fellow? Sometimes your friends, because they are not blinded by love/lust/passion, can see things that you can’t or don’t want to see about him. Find out what it is about this guy that your friends don’t like about him and listen good. They’re your friends and have your best interest in mind. If your friends don’t like your boyfriend, then you’re in for an unpleasant ride.

If after all of this, you think it’s a good idea to date him, then invite him over to your house to meet your parents. If he thinks this is a bad idea, then it’s a bad idea to date him.

Two years is plenty of time to be legit. If somebody doesn’t like it, they are out of line.

Do you know what the cause of their breakup was? If it had something to do with him cheating on her or being involved in drugs then skip thoughts of him alltogether. If they just weren’t compatible and she’s only an acquaintance of yours rather than a friend of yours, sure- find out if he’s interested in you.

There are plenty of guys who put up with bitchy girls because the girl is attractive or popular. Then they get tired of the effort it takes. If you like this guy, then date him. Any time you meet someone that makes you laugh, that’s a good thing. Follow your instinct.

sorry guys i didnt make that very clear, when i said she’s bitchy, those were my words not his. He didn’t say that at all. And he broke up with her just because he didn’t love her anymore. Her friend accidentally let it spill to me that he’s tried to break up with her many times before but she threatened to kill herself so he gave it another go, but that’s not the point. :) Thanks for the advice btw guys xx

certainly yes. i don’t think dating that girl would be a problem for you. btw you said you’re happy this way, so go ahead. wish you luck. :)

I would say to go for it and take your chances since it has been over 2 years. If she gets huffy with you then that’s her problem because like you said, she really annoys you.