Do women want to hear the illogical lie more than the logical truth?

I’ll take the truth please.
As for my S/O finding someone else attractive? So what? It does work both ways ;)
I don’t however want to be with a man who has bad manners.

Ask me a question and you will get the bald truth to a point. I won’t lie but I won’t hurt someone just to give them the whole truth they may not really need. Life is about feeling good, being as happy as possible and keeping the peace.

no.

I don’t want to be lied to, but I don’t want to be unnecessarily hurt either.

Would you like to be told about all the men who are better looking and have better bodies than you do?

No.

And, frankly, it sounds like you may have a chip or two on your shoulder.

Nobody wants to be lied to, but blurting out a painful truth at an inappropriate time is cruel too. There is such a thing as tact, though I freely admit that I my sense of tact doesn’t always work flawlessly either. We’re all human, too.

She doesn’t think she has suddenly become the most beautiful woman in the world, but she would most likely prefer to think she is the most desirable one in your eyes.

How you tell your girlfriend or wife that you find another woman attractive is key. You can be considerate, you can be cruel, you can be any number of things in between. How you present it will play a huge role in her reaction.

Also, if you can’t be subtle enough about looking at other women, then you should probably try to confine the gawking to times when you are not with her.

@marinelife Would you like to be told about all the men who are better looking and have better bodies than you do? Sure, because I know it is all true. There are tons of guys out there that women think are miles ahead of me. I am not crushed by throngs of women at the mall screaming to get at me. I can’t walk into any bar and leave with any woman. No women beg me to sign her boobies or tossing panties at me. I know and understand that fact I also know that I am the one at her side and she chooses me to be at her side. No matter what until I see anything to the contrary I will go forward and believe I am the starting QB and I have the job, even if there are those who may be deemed better ”they” do not have the job, I do. I would rather hear the truth that I logically know is the truth than having smoke blew up my a** because I would feel bad that there was others that were better or think because they would she wanted to go off boinking them. If I thought that would happen, I would be gone before you knew it.

The truth doesn’t bother me.

There are so many “men are from mars, women are from venus” lists out there like that one. Reading and believing that crap will only keep those attitudes alive.

I don’t get the “your woman” philosophy. My girlfriend acknowledges that other women are beautiful or attractive or hot looking. But she hopes that she is the most beautiful woman to me. And she is.

Nope.

There’s a huge difference between finding other women attractive, and making your wandering eyes so obvious that it causes hurt feelings.

I know my hubby finds other women attractive, just like he knows I’d like to have hot monkey sex with Johnny Depp and Viggo Mortenson. =0) He just doesn’t make hurtful comments about other women, nor does he stare at them when we’re out together. He also knows my lust for those two actors in NO way means I would ever cheat on him.

I had a previous boyfriend who made such a dirty, hurtful comment to me about Catherine Zeta Jones that he was suddenly on the receiving end of a flying glass of rum, my “stay over items” being ripped out of his bedroom, and my middle finger up in the air as I walked out his door.

I KNOW my man will see other attractive women, but I expect him to keep from hurting my feelings with rude comments.

@Supacase Also, if you can’t be subtle enough about looking at other women, then you should probably try to confine the gawking to times when you are not with her. It doesn’t always come down to gawking. If you are sitting watching a movie and a “Scarlett Johansson”, “Alexis Bledel” type appears on the screen the man gets asked “Is she pretty?”, “Do you think she is prettier than me?”, “Do you find her attractive?”, etc do women expect him to lie and say no when it is logically obvious she is attractive and everyone in the room knows it, or tell the truth and just admit it?

@WillWorkForChocolate I KNOW my man will see other attractive women, but I expect him to keep from hurting my feelings with rude comments. One can be honest with out telling her “Oh, next to her you look like a plate of chopped liver, man I would make freaky monkey sex to her any day of the week”. Saying like that would be wrong.