Is it really bad to act like your boyfriend is your best friend?

How old are each of you?

@Kayak8 We’re teenagers, he’s a year older.

I am curious how you got the idea that a friendship is somehow bad? Sounds like garbage from other people. I think being friends is really important in a relationship. The only challenge is that should the relationship ends, you lose a boyfriend AND a best friend.

I think friendship is the basis for any good relationship. When the butterflies die down, when us older married people get into a routine, it is good to have a partner you can connect with in ways that are not sexually or romantically based.

I think that is a nice thing:)

Who said it was bad? Jealous much, are they?

Why would you NOT want your boyfriend to be your best friend? If you don’t have a real friendship with the person that you are dating, then all you have is a series of groping hookups, until that gets old.

Learn to value friendship and accept nothing less in a romance. There are plenty of males people who have NO interest in friendship, they prefer shallow (and multiple) hookups. Watch out of those people.

It’s nice to see your boyfriend as also a friend. I joked to my boyfriend that we’re basically glorified drinking buddies. It gives the relationship a more casual, easygoing feel. On the other hand, if you’re young and your boyfriend is the very closest person in your life, you could be setting yourself up for a tough time. Breaking up will be hard because you’ll lose your best friend and your boyfriend all at once.

I’ll echo everyone else: it’s a great thing that you’re friends with your partner. I originally asked out my partner because she was great to talk to and we had fun. Almost eight years later and I couldn’t be happier with our relationship.

Not trying to be sarcastic but….Are you really asking if it is okay that your boyfriend is your friend?

Of course it is okay. In fact. That’s awesome. I bet your friends are jealous you have such an awesome relationship.

Unless there is something in your question that is not clear… this is an easy answer.

Why would on Earth this become a bad thing? It’s great, my darling!

It’s only bad if you neglect all your other friends to be around your boyfriend, and you have a tendency to go through boyfriends really quickly. If one of your friends told you it’s bad, maybe they aren’t really trying to say that it’s bad so much as that they miss you and wish you would hang out with them more.

That’s a great thing, until it (if) it gets to a point where he’s ONLY your best friend and you have no interest in him as a boyfriend.

That’s how it should be, imo – how else would it be?

I have no idea why anyone would ever consider this a bad thing. Most of the couples I know that have been together for a long time consider each other their best friend.

IMO it is great if you think this is so. If your S/O, boyfriend can’t be your best friend….why bother?

No, it’s great that your bf is your bf.
My wife is my best friend.

I think when your SO is your best friend, it usually means that whatever intimacy you have is a positive force in your relationship.

In some relationships where one isn’t comfortable with being intimate or is dissatisfied with that part of it, then the dissatisfied partner might be more likely to form a closer bond with someone else.

My wife is my best friend. we had so much in common, that it would have been a sin not to marry each other.

Best friends usually marry each other. keep this in mind.

I think it’s the opposite: I think it’s important that your boyfriend/girlfriend is also a very good friend. My partner is my best friend, and we’re in our 23rd year of marriage (and 25th year together) so I think it works.