It is definitely easier to live with someone who has a similar temperment and attitude towards things. Slobs make the worst room mates for neatniks (the neatniks always suffer because they are the ones that have to clean up the mess). Loud party-loving socialites make bad room mates for those who prefer the quiet, studious environments and lack of people coming and going at all hours. People who are allergic or afraid of animals make bad room mates for pet lovers/owners. People who enjoy a warm house make bad room mates for those who prefer it to be cool. Smokers make bad room mates for non smokers. Drunks make bad room mates for everyone.
It is a very good idea to think of 100 things that are important to you and have something written up regarding each of those things such as:
Who is responsible for washing one’s own dishes?
Will you be sharing food that is in the pantry and fridge (or can you eat someone else’s takeout leftovers)?
Is it ok for you or the room mate to have over night guests? How long can they stay.
What about guests that are clearly having sex? Is that ok?
May a guest bring a pet, temporarily?
Where will the guests sleep?
Who is responsible for purchasing and replacing the toilet paper and paper towels?
Will you be sharing toothpaste, mouthwash, shampoo, shaving cream etc?
Will you and the room mate be sharing pots and pans and blenders and coffee makers and tupperware and zip lock bags and foil etc?
How will you use the TV and stereo and/or computer in common areas?
At what time of the evening, must the sound of TV’s or stereos be turned off (or switched to headphones)?
Who is in charge of keeping the bathroom, kitchen, living room and other common rooms clean?
Who owns the vacuum? Will it be shared? How often should the house be cleaned?
What constitutes clean? Who is responsible for purchasing dish soap, comet, glass cleaner etc.?
Who will mop the floor and how often?
Is smoking or drinking allowed in the house? What about drugs?
Who’s voice will be on the main land line phone machine?
What is the policy for taking good notes when someone phones?
Where will you be doing the laundry? Who is responsible for the laundry and cleaning supplies?
ETC, etc. etc.
Get a big dry erase board to keep on the fridge or next to the front door to leave messages for each other, and reminders of chores, and bills to be paid.
It’s a good rule of thumb to let your room mate know when and where you will be and give them a contact number (you should expect the same from them) You never know when something will happen when you need to get in touch with each other NOW!
Keep your doors and windows shut and locked. Every year, at least in my town, you hear on the news that some psycho came in an assaulted someone because of an unlocked door or window. Don’t give them the opportunity.
Make sure you always have more money than you think you will need. All sorts of things come up from un-expected repairs, food bills, phone bills, unexpected guests showing up, room mate forgetting to pay his share of the rent, emergency room visits.
If you decide to live alone, make sure that you have someone that you trust, check up on you every now and then (once a day or once a week, phonecall). If you get really sick and you’re by yourself, call someone immediately to let them know you are sick. My cousin was so sick once that she couldn’t drive herself to the emergency room. Luckily she called us! And we came and got her.
Some neighbors can be really un-friendly. Watch what you do, so as not to stir those kind of people up. If you end up with a neighbor that is causing trouble, make sure you document everything that was said and done, and that you saw IN WRITING and with photos if possible, with the dates that the events took place. Also document everything that has to do with a bad room mate.
Keep records of everything!!!!!!!!!! Rent, bills paid, due dates, visits by the landlord, photos of any kind of problems or damages. If you ever have to go to court, you won’t win unless you have detailed documentation.
Be a good room mate. Be polite, don’t sweat the small stuff (like people borrowing your food) and try to keep quiet and calm at all times. Clean up after yourself and give your room mate a heads up when you will be gone, having company or make any changes.
Just because you follow the above advice, does not mean that your room mate will do the same. Know in advance which items on your list are deal breakers for you. Know in advance what it will take to break a lease if you have to (usually lots of money and/or the need to find a replacement tenant).
Make sure you have some things on hand that your parents probably have, but you may not have thought of:
Umbrellas
Flashlights
Candles
Towels
Nail clippers
Rubbing alcohol
Bandaids
Pepto Bismol
Immodium
Cough drops
Toilet plunger
Aspirin or Tylenol
Scissors
Extra sheets and blankets (you need extra when you are doing laundry or have guests)
Vacuum
Mop
Broom
Dust pan and small broom
Dish drying rack
Glue
Tape
Stapler
Picture hooks
Nails and screws
Wall repair compound
Trash bins
Extra light bulbs
List of emergency phone numbers and loaded address book
Tool kit
Jumper cables
Start reading up online about renters rights and responsibilies for your state. Talk to your landlord immediately, before you have a problem and ask them how they would like you to handle problems such as a leaky faucet, un workable stove, mold discovered in the walls, stopped up toilet etc. Ask if they want you to contact them first, or if they have a list of approved repair people to call.
And please, please, please keep a little trash can next to your toilet so when your female friends come over to visit. : )