Unruly step grand kids?
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December 26th, 2010
I have step grand children ages 3–8. They are destructive and have no manners and break or almost break things when they come over. Their home is a disaster. Their parents do not correct them when they come over. We have a nice home. I was told kids will be kids. I am the only one who corrects them therefore I am the bad person.
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Sounds right. The Bible says spank your kids, or you will end up hating them.
Voice your concerns to your son/daughter. Let them know the kids are welcome in your home, as long as they are respectful.
You don’t say how they are “step grandchildren.” If they are related to you through your wife, you need to address the issue first with her. Let her know that you are unhappy with how they are acting in your house and that you are not comfortable with being the only disciplinarian. If the relationship si through a child of yours primarily, talk to that child. If you cannot get another adult to act as “co-discpilinarian”, you may may need to take a stand that you will not have them in your house, or you may need to absent yourself more when they come over.
Good luck and welcome to Fluther!
Keep on being the “bad person.” It’s your home and forbidding that behavior by the kids will not hurt them in any way. The parents may get angry but so be it. I’m about to be a step gramma myself but don’t anticipate your problem. If anything, grammpa is too strict. I never let my kids ruin my home, I don’t let my own grandkids ruin my home, and the step grandkids will not either. Admittedly, I don’t anticipate the problem; I love having them around.
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