If your spouse won't go, do you go alone?

I simply don’t go!

I have no problem doing things on my own.I am a friendly person and have no trouble meeting new people or talking with them.If I want to do something,there isn’t much that can stop me. ;)

Like @lucillelucillelucille, I’m fine doing things on my own and am fine with the boy doing things by himself.
But to me, New Year’s Eve is different. I wouldn’t go to the party without him.
Can you get a hotel room near the party?

I have no problem doing things on my own, but I wouldn’t leave my s/o alone on New Years. She’s more important to me than a party.

I think I’d prefer to be with him than at a party.

Self-edited. You know the answer to this one.

I’m with @lucillelucillelucille

If you really want to go, go!

Spend the night and call your spouse at midnight if they are still awake.

Relationships are not about being conjoined twins. ;-)

Most likely I would not go. The exception would be if there was going to be many people there who I rarely get to see, who I love spending time with, and they would all be there in one place. But, New Years is never a big pull for me, I find it awkward a lot of the time.

I’d go, barring any other details. However, I’d see about staying out wherever the party is if possible for the night, if the worry is really about the danger on the roads.

Unless it was family or like my best buddy I would likely not go.

I’m the one who stays home while my wife goes out. She has fun with her friends and ends up with a happy and satisfied life. I am pretty antisocial and going out with friends exhausts me. So I stay home and end up with a happy and satisfied life. It’s good!

However, we live in the city and don’t drive. If we were in your scenario, my wife would have to find a friend with a car…

Any other time of the year, for any other party, I would go alone (and I do, often – I like parties and he doesn’t). If getting home safely afterwards wasn’t possible I would arrange to stay overnight. But I wouldn’t leave my partner alone on New Year’s Eve.

Personally, I wouldn’t go. Though, I often choose staying in over going out especially when the spouse isn’t interested. Now, I don’t see anything wrong with attending functions or stepping out from time time without your spouse, which is a healthy thing to do. I would worry though in this situation about the gamble to drive considering the holiday, as well as the feelings of your spouse spending time alone on New Year’s Eve.

My top goal for New Year’s is to be with my wife at midnight, so I wouldn’t go. But if it’s not a major holiday for the two of you, then I don’t think it’s a big deal. My wife doesn’t like Thanksgiving celebrations, while my father’s family makes a big deal out of them. I go, she doesn’t.

I wouldn’t go. Not only would I rather not have my spouse worrying about me, they’re my number one person of choice to celebrate with. In the past decade I’ve gotten real skitchy about being on the roads for major holidays. Tonight our dinner reservations are before 9pm and it’s a straight shot down the highway to go home and relax before a toast with our guests.

this just makes me miss my x g/f :(

Even if she voices no objections to you going it alone, IMO you are going to be sending a clear message to your wife that you would rather go out to go party it up with your buds alone that to honor her concerns about being out and about on amateur night.

I have the same concerns about being on the road with drunk drivers. I do not drive on NYE and won’t get in a car after about dinner time unless it’s an absolute emergency. The only way I would go to the party would be if I knew I could crash at the house the party was at, otherwise, I wouldn’t even consider going (with my spouse or not).

That being said, I’d much rather be with my husband on NYE because we already have to miss enough holidays and special occasions due to the military. I would not voluntarily miss one without a damn good reason.

If this is a guy, consider your wife and how she honestly feels.
If you’re a lady, BE CAREFUL.
Dark roads, drunks, country roads….ugh.

It’s so dependent on the individual couple.

Don’t go to upset your spouse.
You’ll eventually lose them.

Be careful tonight I’m going early to a show I’m VERY excited about with another girl with the same idea. Safety is first. This show IS worth the challenge of NYE.

Personal thing :) good luck.
If you’ll regret not going do it.

If tomorrow you won’t care, think hard. ;)

I wouldn’t go without him. I have to be able to smooch him at midnight. :)

Most times I go places without depending on him, but I make it a general practice not to go out on New Year’s Eve ever.

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I would stay home. I can visit with my friends any time.

Depends on where or what “It” is…I wouldn’t want to be out on the roads tonight with anyone.

If it was any other day I would say just go and have fun!! But it’s new years!!! Do you really want to spend the new year away from your honey?

Nope. If he doesn’t want to go to the party, then I’d stay home with him. He’s more important to me than drinking with a bunch of people I don’t sleep with.

My husband and I actually faced this scenario tonight. His (grown) son and his fiance were hosting their first New Year’s Eve party in their newly purchased home, so it was a pretty big deal. The party wasn’t an appropriate place for my (teenage) children though, and they’re with us this weekend. My husband went to the party, while I stayed home with my girls and watched The Twilight Zone marathon and saw the ball drop at midnight.

I was a bit sad at the prospect of being away from each other at midnight, but I knew it was largely irrational to feel that way, and encouraged him to go despite my sadness. We both ended up having a good time tonight, and he got a sober ride home shortly after midnight. I got extra kisses due to the delay. :)

I probably would not go without him for New Year’s eve, but other occasions I would and do. He’s much less of a party lover than I am. I asked him not to say he’ll go and then back out at the last minute. He’s been good about that and can now say no when I first ask so I don’t feel ‘stood up’ when it’s time to get ready for the party. Works for me.

We had a New Year’s get together at my parents house. My husband didn’t feel like going, so the kids and I went without him. He’s got a bad cold and sore throat. I wasn’t going to miss the fun because he’s ill. He’s kind of a homebody anyway, so I go places without him all the time. Neither of us mind.

When I was married before, we started a tradition of going to Old Cow Town for Mother’s Day when my youngest was about two. It was in the middle of the River Festival in Wichita. Anyway, we’d get buffalo burgers and look at all the Cow Town Stuff. Well, my husband went with us for the first two years, then didn’t want to go for the next three (no reason. Just being an asshole) so we went without him. It was kind of sad, all that he, and the kids missed out on with each other for that “tradition.” Of course, he had no option by the next year because I had filed for divorce and kicked his sorry ass out by then. (Yes, he wanted to go that year, and I said KMA.)